He returned one night from a trip to find his wife cheating on him on his own bed? What should he do? Can he really forgive that one?
2007-03-14 03:55:05 · 19 answers · asked by Jason W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Only if he wants to but she'd have to do some serious work to get him back, and he'll have to get some serious therapy to find out if he actually thinks shes worth his time and effort.
Society says hell no. I say each to their own.
2007-03-14 04:01:10 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should really find out WHY she did it. If she simply doesn't care, well that's the end of that, I reckon. But I have been in a position in the past, where, BECAUSE I was so sure, confident and happy in my relationship, I got too close to a guy and ended up kissing him (while my partner was away for 10 months). Luckily I was not at home and he was a good guy, so I had it relatively easy to leave. I just wonder how difficult it might have been to say no otherwise. And I have been in that situation where getting out of it was harder than putting up with it, not to mention that you can feel at risk, as the guy might feel led on (something to think about, too, for some of you boys in general - if a girl stops wanting to do it, there is a reason for it, talk to her, don't force her). Anyway try to find out how it happened exactly and why, this should help you make a decision. Did she feel neglected, was she angry with you, was it revenge, was she drunk or drugged? Good luck and I hope it will turn out for the best.
2007-03-14 11:07:23 · answer #2 · answered by Julia S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the bible said that you have an obligation to a divorce if you cannot forgive a spouse for adultry so if you can't forgive her then kick her cheating 4$$ to the curb file the divorce the next day show her your serious.
2007-03-14 11:02:43 · answer #3 · answered by Baby_K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes,
You can forgive her if you love her so much you'll try your best to make things work seek counseling to see what made her do what she's done god forgives why can't we????? it can be something that you never imagine that could have made her do what she's done and after you've done all that and you feel like it still cant work then let the marriage go because, you tried and you still feel like theirs no chance.but don't leave with hate in your heart leave on common grounds.
2007-03-14 11:08:49 · answer #4 · answered by Aisha C 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He needs to move on b/c once a cheater always a cheater. If she done it once she will do it again. Don't let him make the same mistake i made and take her back b/c when i took my ex back he went and cheated again with the same person and she ended up pregnant. He needs to divorce her and move on and find someone who will be faithful.
2007-03-14 11:02:59 · answer #5 · answered by biggest_duke_fan_ever@yahoo.com 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if i were him i wouldnt forgive her, cheating is bad but in ur own home its even worse. Im sorry for him but i think its time to find a divorce lawyer.
2007-03-14 10:59:10 · answer #6 · answered by Finn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I could forgive her but could never stay in the relationship with her
2007-03-14 11:01:03 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would talk it out, find out the true reason behind, seek counseling and try different things like learning to forgive if it's just one incident. sometimes what we see is just a tip of the problmatic iceberg so you wanna know what the problem is hidden behind. good luck!
2007-03-14 10:59:31 · answer #8 · answered by xyz 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Me? I wouldn't ever forgive someone that would cheat on me... and certainly not after catching them in my own bed.
But, that decision is up to him. Some can forgive...
2007-03-14 10:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by aZoomm 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow!
that's definitely crossing the line, there's thing that you can forgive [but not forget] and this is by far one of the worse things you can ever get caught doing.
2007-03-14 11:01:42 · answer #10 · answered by p@nKiss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋