Will it work out?

Question

I have been friends with this guy for about 6 weeks now (we work next door to each other & have the same friends). 2 weeks ago he finally asked me out, only problem is he is flying to America for 3 months to do voluteer work. He says he is really going to miss me & wants to continue seeing me when he gets back, but that at the moment 3 months in the future seems like a long time away. This was something he had planned for a long time before he met me. When we are together we get on great & I will really miss him, we have both said that we will keep in touch all the time while he's away (this is 1 of the things he keeps going on about) but rather than hold each other back we will see how things go when he gets back, not promises sort of thing. I do know that he is being sensible but ust wonder...

What are the chances of it working out? Is he just not wanting to jump into something so soon or is he just not interested?

Basically has anyone ever been here & did it work out for you?

Answer 1

I think he sounds a very sensible and considerate chap. he is keen but also at the same time letting you know that he wants to complete his travel plans over those 3 months and doesn't want either of you tied down to a relationship. You or he could meet other potential partners during that time and he doesn't want to be held back and nor does he want you held back.
Also if you are keeping in touch then that is a great thing to do as you are still in contact and talking.
Take this one step at a time as neother of you have promised each other anything.
Long distance relationships can and do work. It depends on the people.
Give it a go...you have nothing to lose.

Answer 2

Well you have to come to the terms that he has to go to America for awhile and that it seems that he still wants to date you, It could be that it will be a long distance relationship and if so , then don't let other people tell you that it won't work because either they tried and it did not work for them or they just don't think it will work for anyone. It can work if you and him communicate and keep an open mind, When he comes back see what he says and then take it from there. Maybe talk to him about it to get his feelings and let him know you want to know what he is thinking.

Answer 3

His rationale is that a long distance relationship probably wouldn't work for you guys. So instead of trying that and the inevitable failure, he'd rather wait until you can have a proper relationship. Seems to me he wants it to work, but realizes that given your circumstances at the moment, it can't; he's waiting for the circumstances to change.