Would you allow your extended family to discipline your kids while they are in their care?

Question

I mean as far as spanking is concerned. I gave my siblings and my parents full permission to discipline my future children when they are in their care.

Answer 1

Yes, If there doing something that needs discipline. I don't want my kids thinking if there anywhere else that means they can act up. I want them to know anywhere they are there going to get discipline as long as it's appropriate.

Answer 2

Yes when children are being cared for by others they need to be disciplined. I do not allow other people to spank my children but put them in time outs, take away privileges, Yes I expect others to discipline my children if I can not.

I see so many kids now a days misbehaving and having their parents defend their child when someone looks at them funny. I work in the school cafeteria and I will get looks from parents when I make them pick up their own garbage. I can not believe how many parents end up in the office when their child is disciplined by a teacher and say "but its not their fault"

Discipline needs to start at home and carry on where ever that child goes.

Answer 3

Not a chance, and I've already talked this over with my parents and inlaws. NOONE will discipline my son but my husband and I. Which, btw, will not include spanking or any physical contact of any kind. There are other, more effective ways, to discipline a child. I was spanked, well halfway beat, and it only taught me to be afraid of my parents and scared all the time. That's no way for a child to be raised, imho.

Answer 4

Since we discipine at home my child doesn't need to be spanked or disciplined at all when he is in someone else's care. If they ask to do something he is obedient. He was taught to respect adults. He is 4 and we have never had a problem.

I think it is interesting that you say your future children. My Grandmother always comments when those without children give parenting advice. When it isn't your own then you don't know what you would do.

Take Care,
SD

Answer 5

Only if everyone is in agreement on the ways and means and the type of discipline. In general though, I think children save their bad behavior for the parents. My kids are always good when we're not around!

Answer 6

As long as I am confident in their abilities I would allow them to discipline but I would make sure what that means. There's a difference in a spanking and child abuse. You must decide.

Answer 7

Of course I would ( I don't mean kill them) but the home is the main source of diciplinary action and as a result would reflect on how our children behave with others. If they are well disciplined and respectful to their elders they would not have a resaon to be spanked.

Answer 8

I only give immediate family like parents siblings and her fathers mother and sister permission to discipline her, mostly because I know they will not harm my daughter or take it overboard. With other family members or anyone else who may watch your child you never know what they are going through or who they may decide to take it out on so if my child is acting out when she is in the care of someone other than immediate family I am to be told and I will handle the situation myself.

Answer 9

Yes, but to a curtain extent every time I let some one watch my son weather it is my mom or some one not as close I always tell them how I discipline him and how I would want them to discipline him. You just have to speak up and let them know so maybe you will feel more comfortable.

Answer 10

Let me ask you this: do you intend for someone to watch your children with no ability to discipline them? Should they just put up with bad behavior? What if the kid is writing on their wall with a marker, are they supposed to ignore that?

If you have specific discipline methods you would prefer to be used, I would say that you should talk to them about it. Otherwise, keep them yourself.