My pomeranian absolutley hates me sometimes. He lives with my mom, but lived with me for the first year of his life (he's 3 now). Every time I go over to visit him, he won't let me pick him up, runs away from me, and even snaps at me.
The thing I can think of is that my brother and stepfather think it's funny to tease him when he has a treat (creating food agression) but when he doesn't have a treat he's mean too.
I don't know why he won't let me pet him, he tries to bite me and then runs to my mother. Sometimes he is nice though. I just don't get it.
2007-03-14 03:45:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pets ➔ Dogs
My daughter is getting similar treatment from her cat that she left with her grandmother. The cat has now bonded to the new main person ... grandma. In your case the pup has bonded with your Mother. Having felt abandonment by you, he may never get over the feeling you let him down. Also now he has bonded with your Mother, he is going to be close to her and work on it that this relationship does not lead him into more disappointment. My advice is don't push yourself on him. Don't try to pick him up... he will find that intimidating. Do sit with him and talk softly to him. Don't reach out for him. Allow him to feel confident to come to you, no matter how long this may take. If you say reassuring things to him like... oh my, what a good dog you are. or You are the most handsome pup in the world. Things like that said with calm quiet voice will help him to restore some faith in you. Just be patient. You will not gain his affection by forcing anything. Ask your Mother if you can set out his food, change his water and things like that. You may yet win him back bit by bit. As to your brother and stepfather annoying him, ask Mother to put her foot down about this. It is not helpful to do this. None of us likes being teased. Dogs and people too. That has to stop as it is plain mean.
Good luck in trying to rescue your relationship with the pup.
Cheers,
Lisa
2007-03-14 04:04:52 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Much of this probably has to do with his relationship with your mom - he runs to her after being aggressive to you. This means he is either seeking protection or an ally. I suggest that you have a trainer observe the dog with the family and then give you things to work on so that your dog doesn't behave aggressively.
I doubt that your brother and stepdad teasing her is causing her behavior toward you, but they still should not be encouraging that behavior. They really need to grow up and stop it.
2007-03-14 04:21:14 · answer #2 · answered by melissa k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dogs aren't mean or vindictive like humans. They have their own psychology. To understand his behaviour you have to think like a dog. Dogs live in packs with a strict "pecking order" or heirarchy. To him, you were once part of the pack (the family in the house), then you left. He doesn't understand the way human families work i.e. we still belong even when we live apart. So in his eyes it's likely he doesn't see you as part of the pack anymore. It sounds like he sees your mum as pack leader. Remember, too, he is a Pomeranian, a feisty and protective breed. In his dog mind he sees you as coming into his space.
No dog should ever be teased at anytime, for any reason, ever. It's just confusing him and asking for trouble. Plus it is cruel.So tell your dad and brother to stop it right now, unless they honestly want to encourage the dog to become even snappier, irritable, unpredictable and even dangerous. He may be small but even little dogs can inflict really nasty wounds and anyway who wants an unhappy dog?
Come to terms with the fact that he now sees himself as your mum's dog. If that makes you feel sad remember he doesn't understand why you would feel like that coz he's a dog. This doesn't mean you can't still have a good relationship with him. When you go to see him play fun games (strictly no teasing!), take him for walks, enjoy each other's company just him and you. Let him come to you. If he doesn't want to be picked up and hugged just pet him gently, when he's ready. Take it slowly. Give him time to adjust and in time I guarantee he'll be really pleased to see you when you arrive.
2007-03-14 04:20:10 · answer #3 · answered by kittyfreek 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Their nature is like that. In India we have many of those dogs. Many indians dont buy them coz they are rude and mean. My aunt had her face bitten by her pom when she carried him out of the room when some guests came by unexpectatedly.
They are ungrateful and will always bite the hand that feeds them. Their have that attitude and I can say that all dogs are the same when it comes to poms. Its a risk having them and trust me, though when they are pups they look lovely but they have stunted hearts and can never be loyal, humble and faithful.
Bye
2007-03-14 03:50:57 · answer #4 · answered by MafiaGal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A bipolar dog.............did i read that right?
You cant apply human conditions and disorders to a dog.
Thats just beyond idiotic, sorry.
Probably being spoiled by some people, treated bad by other people, confuses him.
Pomeranians are little drama queens anyway in general.
2007-03-14 07:55:53 · answer #5 · answered by Chyme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a combination of nature and nurture.. he's partially just made that way and he's becoming aggressive because of the way your brother/stepfather treat him.
2007-03-14 03:53:01 · answer #6 · answered by Trouble's Mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly it could also be that he feels you left him. You had him his first year, and he grew attached to you. You then drop him off somewhere else and he has had to grow a new attachment. You are no longer alpha.
2007-03-14 03:55:20 · answer #7 · answered by SuzyQ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋