I feel sad about being with my boyfriend. we have been together for three years, and i love him to pieces, i never felt about anyone this way.
We had a really rocky year, but we made it through. Neither of us ever wanted to call it a day. Still we hurt each other. it broke my heart, and now there is nothing actually between us, but something isn't right.
I go away and instead of saying he misses me, he'll say 'why haven't you called me, why dont you want to know how i am' Sometimes everything is so nice, and then something comes up from nowhere.
We want to get married, have children eventually. but i cant help thinking, 'why am i sad if we are still together'
2007-03-14 03:41:18 · 9 answers · asked by sleepyme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
cause ur really not happy, he is not the one
2007-03-14 03:43:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That rocky year has caused him to be insecure about the relationship. It has also done something to you too but you haven't given enough info to figure that one out. You say that you love him to pieces, yet are sad. Maybe it's because you realize that you don't really love him that way anymore? If you still do, then you need to make him feel more secure so he can stop asking those questions that you don't like. The problem isn't his, it's yours since you can only control what you do. Understand?
2007-03-14 10:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationship's sometimes need lot of understanding from both sides and you will fee sad if you expect one thing and it dose not happen at all, so the best thing to do is talk it out and find out what is missing I am sure that both of will be happy once you come to understand that missing link. If you cant understand this well call it quits and become good friends. Remember for a lasting relationship,first and foremost you need to be real good friends.Hope that you can sort out your problems
2007-03-14 10:57:27 · answer #3 · answered by rlndmaths 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always listen to your inner voice. It is telling you that you are sad when you are with your boyfriend and that is not something to ignore and hope gets better, chances are it won't get better it will get worse. Change is almost always scary, but you should not stay in a relationship that is bad just because to leave would be scary. Maybe take a break and see if you feel better separated from your boyfriend, but whatever you do, do not allow pressure from boyfriend to guilt you back into a relationship with him. It is your right to end a relationship anytime you need to.
2007-03-14 11:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by SleepyMomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe its like.. you guys been together for so long that you dont really know how to NOT be together? You know? LIke your not really happy with him but at the same time, its like... "we been thru all this stuff already, it would be a waste to give it all up-"
but see No, it doesnt have to be a waste. Everyone comes into your life for A REASON. His reason was to help you through all your hardships and be there for you as much as he knows how. YOu guys arent meant to be MARRIED but you are most likely meant to be BEST FRIENDS.
its okay - you need to let him know how you feel.
good luck
2007-03-14 10:50:03 · answer #5 · answered by RainboW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has a Control issue and the more he makes you feel bad the more control he gets over you... Life is too short not to be Happy and Enjoy it with someone who makes you feel good and good about yourself.
Find yourself then you will find happiness.
2007-03-14 10:51:13 · answer #6 · answered by cherokeegem38 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your gut feelings. If you are unhappy now, it will only get worse. Maybe if you have a talk and get everything out in the open, it will help.
2007-03-14 10:44:36 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes just loving someone is not enough of a reason to stay together. as hard as it may be, you may just need to let him go.
2007-03-14 10:46:39 · answer #8 · answered by riveted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bigger question is why are you still together if you're sad?
2007-03-14 10:44:42 · answer #9 · answered by Spud55 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋