ok, im 23, we have been on and off for the past 7 years for various reasons.
Hes seen other girls and iv had other serious relationships with other guys.
Its always come back to being together, wheni meet other amazing guys that offer me the world i think about him and end up contactin him and movin back.
I love him, but right now cant think why? we broke up 2 weeks ago he was so nasty, i left him cause he did wat he wanted,didnt take me out,ignored me when he got drunk up town,he was very nasty to me and my friends when i dumped him, even thru a drink over me in a club. no one wants me back with him.
But again i have been in touch with him, even tho i said to myself i wasnt gonna again and its never gonna work.
Whats wrong with me?? Hes never changed since i was 15 but i still go back.
I think hes gorgeous but thats all, he trys but then gives up.
What can i do? Do i meet him and talk about it to be let down again?
Cant help it tho. Always end up going back x
2007-03-14 03:37:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When u very well know the truth then y do u go back to him? u'll have to get serious and think about it. If u feel u cannot live with out him then u'll have to get used to all this ... if not u'll have to forget him. Make up ur mind and stick to it.
2007-03-14 03:50:22 · answer #1 · answered by Lucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's high time u should think about this very seriously, cos u r ruiing ur own life getting entangled in a mess which u r nt sure u should be. Give one day to urself and think hard, Wht do " YOU" want , If u realise no matter wht u love him, then accept him with all his flaws - if u dn;t tommorow some other gul would do it. If u realise " No, I cann't stand this any more- it's not going to change for the rest of the life- Then take strong decision - and never look back at him. Never be in the places u think u might meet him Until u get a good partner and settle dow. Delete all his contact numbers, throw everything awaywhich reminds u of him
2007-03-14 10:47:52 · answer #2 · answered by priya k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some therapy you have no pride. Going back to him is like a dog going to a master that beats him. The dog is ignorant you're not. You need serious help if you would even consider going back to someone that treats you that way.
You need to stay out of all relationships until you have a better relationship with yourself. You need to learn to respect yourself and to demand that anyone that you are friends with or having a sexual relationship with treats you with dignity and respect.
Do the work now and you will find that your future relationships are far more fulfilling and lasting both sexual and friendships. It's part of growing up! You have to learn to love you first.
2007-03-14 10:46:14 · answer #3 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going back to your comfortable area. It's like your favorite couch or favorite movie.. your used to it and feel akward without it so you return to it thinking that it's the same.. but each time it's a little different. TRY something new.. DONT call him.. DONT go back.. GO out with the girls keep your mind off him and on other things. I know you can. It sounds like to me he is just bad news for you honey. If its just the looks, honey there are MILLIONS of guys in the world that probably are TWICE as gorgeous.. keep your eyes open. Good Luck!
2007-03-14 10:45:54 · answer #4 · answered by Stormy Eyez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You suffer from low self esteem. This is why you are drawn to maltreatment. When a guy offers you the world you feel you are not worthy and run back to an abusive relationship. In short, I doubt there is hope for you. You are definitely a top candidate to be a future baby's momma.
2007-03-14 10:44:44 · answer #5 · answered by the man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like 'Battered-Wife-Syndrome'. Not to say that there was any physical abuse, but he is abusive emotionally. Get outside help girl and get away now before it becomes worse.
He keeps making you unhappy because he 'get's away with it' and knows that you'll just keep coming back to him eventually.
Save your self and break the cycle.
2007-03-14 10:48:51 · answer #6 · answered by Kihee Meow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys tend to do stuff like this, but not all guys do. i know this may be hard, but u should move on and try to find another guy. He sounds like he probly likes you but is not interested in all that you may be. No offence but he souds like he may lie sometimes. thats not good. i was in the same situation once, and i held on, it was probly the biggest mistake ive made in my life! i say, move on, and try to let go.
Good Luck!
M
2007-03-14 10:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by Mo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have some serious co-dependency issues. Read a good book about it.
2007-03-14 10:43:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is plenty more fish in the sea. Sounds like he has ALOT of growing up to do. I would ditch him.
GOOD LUCK
2007-03-14 10:44:50 · answer #9 · answered by steelerchic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey it is time for you to go on with your life. you deserve better. he will only keep on treating you dirty because he knows that you will come running back to him.
2007-03-14 10:43:50 · answer #10 · answered by christie m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋