Should I get our wedding planner a gift?

Question

I have a wedding planner who has been helping me a great deal. Although I am not paying her (she was assigned to me by the hotel in which I will be married) she has been working very dilligently to help plan my day.

My question is: since I am not paying her, should I get her a small gift ($75-100)?

I'm thinking a nice vase from Tiffany or something?

Here's what I have in mind:

http://www.tiffany.com/Shopping/item.aspx?sku=13229058&search_params=t+-s+2-p+1-l+-h+-c+-r+204-x

or

http://www.tiffany.com/Shopping/item.aspx?sku=16780502&search_params=t+-s+2-p+1-l+-h+-c+-r+204-x

Answer 1

I am a wedding planner and florist myself. This is not a lucrative business and even more so if you are working for a facility such as your planner does. Yes! I think you should give her a gift if she is doing many favors for you and pleasing you with her service. I have had brides give me everything from a thank you card to a gift certificate to a nice boutique. I would, all in all, prefer to get a cash tip if I had my choice. But anything would be fine, just to know that my hard work is appreciated.

Answer 2

Yes definitely,

a Gift is not measure by the value but a token of appreciation of her effort in making sure your wedding goes well.

A Personal gift do sometime left a better impression than gift from off the shelves. Personal Gifts can be in the form of a small clips from you and your spouse saying thank you to your wedding planner or

even a small thank you card with you and your picture on it goes a long way in making her day.

Cheers

Answer 3

I think a gift is a nice gesture. It will definitely make her feel that her services have been of value to you. Personally, I don't like those particular vases. You may know enough about her to know that they fit her style, but otherwise I would go with something that would fit easily with any type of decor. I hate to buy a gift that may end up at the next yard sale.

Answer 4

I think it's good to give her a gift, but not good to presume to know what she'd like. She may not have a place to put a vase in her house/apartment. I'd go with a gift certificate.

I'd also suggest checking with the hotel first though. Just give them a call and ask what their policy is on receiving gifts. It's probably not strict in the hotel's case, but some jobs have rules on it.

Answer 5

Unless you know her taste in decorating, you don't know if these vases would be useful to her. She is being paid by the hotel, and you are paying the hotel, so you are actually paying her. So don't feel you have to do something. But it is always nice to acknowledge a job well done if she is doing a good job for you!

Answer 6

you're not obliged to... but if you do appreciate the work she has done for you, then by all means, go ahead and get her something. just expect that she might turn it down because of company policies.

as for the vases... those are extremely thematic design vases (chinese and floral). unless you know what her style is... or has been inside her house... better stick with something versatile. if you're bent on getting her a vase... glass or crystal might be safe.

Answer 7

That gift is nice but you don't know her personal taste so a gift certificate to somewhere she mentions she like during the process of your wedding would be good as well.

Answer 8

I think that's very nice of you - chances are she's being paid by the hotel for her time, but a nice appreciation gift will make her feel valued.

Answer 9

I think it sounds like a great idea, especially since you said she is really working diligently to make sure your day is special. The Tiffany Blossom was gorgeous. Good luck and God Bless your marriage.

Answer 10

Yes get her a gift (or tip her well) and send her a thank you card telling her how much her services meant to you...I LOVE it when I get cards from brides thanking me for the support and love through their wedding....it's definately better then anything they've bought me