we have been 2gether for a yr (next month) but guys call his phone n he says they are old friends n they never call back. Am sure he tells them he has a girlfriend n stop calling. Maybe its something he tried before but he swears he hasnt ever been w/ a male. I called back one of the guys pretending i was his sister n i was curios to whether my brother was gay n he replied..." i havnt met him yet...His always busy...but from what we talked about his confused." He also said he also lied about his apperance completely... So am beginning to think he was confused but now his not. But what if he decides to come out when were already married w/ kids ??
2007-03-14 03:28:53 · 15 answers · asked by nenaargentina0411 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes you have to know when to fold em. This sounds like one of those times.
2007-03-14 03:38:22 · answer #1 · answered by truthyness 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are thinking of marriage and not clear on this very important point. You have serious personal issues. Don't you think you're worth a guy that you are positive is straight? Why would you put your future family at risk by him possibly coming out? It would seem that you already know the answer but just lack the courage to take the next logical step and leave.
One of the key factors in a relationship is trust if you cannot trust your future mate on this issue.
2007-03-14 10:36:22 · answer #2 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like something you two really need to talk about. I wouldn't ask him outright because that might be embarassing but try to bring it out of him on his own terms. I mean you're right, what if he says he's gay when you're alreayd married and have kids? The truth needs to come out before you get married because otherwise he will be living a lie.
2007-03-14 10:33:55 · answer #3 · answered by Tad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him you rung up one of these lads and asked because you were scared that he was gay and you did not like the answer the other lad gave you ask him if he is or not maybe he is just confused if he says he's confused don't start screaming at him get a drink him and talk threw the night and let him speak the truth comes out when your drunk so you probs get the answer then just make sure no one elese is there just you and him but you defo got to ask b4 you get married
2007-03-14 10:35:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen that happen before. I knew a guy who came out after he was 45 years old and married with an 18 year old son. He divorced his wife and started to live with his gay lover.
2007-03-14 10:34:16 · answer #5 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was as unsure as you are, about the man I was thinking of marrying, I would not marry him. Whether it was about him being gay, or anything else. Even if it was about him being confused about wanting more women, I would still not marry him. It means he is not ready to marry anyone. Rethink it.
2007-03-14 10:35:55 · answer #6 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!!! I FEEL SO SORRY FOR YOU BUT THE ANOTHER SIDE OF ME DOESN'T. YOU COUGHT IT EARLIER... THANK GOD. DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY WOMEN MARRY GAY MEN AND DON'T FIND OUT UNTIL THEY HAVE ALREADY HAD CHILDREN. BE HAPPY YOU KNOW NOW......AND GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE. IF YOU STAY AND YOU STILL BELIEVE HE IS GAY....YOU ONLY HAVE YOURSELF TO BLAME. LIKE I SAID A PART OF ME FEELS SORRY FOR YOU. THE OTHER PART IS SCREAMING "GET THE HELL OUT". THIS GUY IS NOT THE GUY FOR YOU EVEN IF HE IS NOT GUY. WITH ALL THE SECRET PHONE CALLS I DON'T KNOW HOW YOU COULD TRUST HIM. GOOD LUCK....I HOPE ONLY FOR THE BEST.
2007-03-14 10:40:37 · answer #7 · answered by tatyana17 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally would not marry a man who is unsure about his sexuality. It would crush you and your children if he decided one day after years of marriage that he is truly gay.
2007-03-14 10:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by suzyalexisandgabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because friends call his phone does not make him gay.now if you over heard something that made it seem like they had something going then be worried.you can not go into a marriage and you have concerns,it will just not work.
2007-03-14 10:34:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had the least little doubt in my mind about my man's sexual orientation- he would not be my man.
You can catch some nasty diseases from messing around with people who aren't too choosy about what they sleep with.
2007-03-14 10:33:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋