Kindergartner being pick-on??

Question

a little before christmas break she started complaining about a certain girl being really mean to her i tried to give her advice on how to handle it...but eventually i asked to teacher to move her to another seat and things have been better (they are actually friendly w/ each other now!) Now there is a little boy that is "being mean" to her...making fun of her last name, pushing her all sorts of things...at least that is what she says....BUT all her teahers say she's got such a strong personality, she's great with all the other kids and so on....so which is it!? is she the target of endless teasing, or is she the social butterfly that i thought she was? I have told her that she may be changing schools (to go to a private one, or either homeschool for a while to see how that works next year) Could all this be her desire to change schools? She is super creative (right brain) and makes things up/flair for the dramatic and stuff..i just want to make th eright choice, not the emotional 1.

The taking her out of school has less to do with the bully thing and more to do with the fact i think that public schools are opressive and terrrible. In my city there are tons of mid day classes and activities geared toward socializing home schooled kids (granted we would be the only non amish ones...just kidding) I don't feel like i fret over every little thing...in fact i am sort of doing this all on the D L. to get the facts staight before i go and talk to admin. and such. I actually volunteer a lot @ her school and things seem pretty okay. It's just weird to see what seems like a happy school life and have her come home and only tell me the bad things...i am starting to think maybe she just wnats a reaction out of me(?) Either way i am gonna go and talk with her teacher...or send a little note...not sure yet.

Answer 1

I`ve had my youngest child come home from school complaining about certain kids in the school yard. The first thing I do is I ask about the whole situation, eg where the incident occured and how my child reacted to the other child. Sometimes a child gets pushed , a little too hard during a game of tag or another child was inattentive and knocked my child over. These things happen. But if your child repeatedly tries to avoid another child who is verbally agressive, and violent, then a call to the principle is in order. They can usually give you a rundown on the yard situation or a little background on how your child usually reacts to these kinds of situations. But don`t hesitate to call the school and inquire, you have to give your child the benefit of doubt. Continually making fun of your child`s last name is unacceptable, this little guy needs a little chat about how we treat others...

Answer 2

Have you ever volunteered in the classroom to try to observe the social interaction between the students? I know this won't give you an accurate picture because they'll behave differently, especially your daughter, if you're there.

This kind of behavior is normal for kindergartners who are just learning how to behave in school and how to interact socially. If you remove her from the school and place her in private school or homeschool her, she'll never learn how to socialize properly.

And if you coddle her and fret over every complaint, she'll definitely begin to take advantage of you. You did right by suggesting ways for her to properly handle tough situations and teaching her how to behave properly (the teachers should know what they see - if she has a strong personality, it could be your daughter who's causing a lot of the friction.) You can't protect them from being around others - they have to learn how to get along in society and it begins in school.

Answer 3

I don't think homeschooling is the answer. It isn't socially healthy for a child. I think no matter what school whether public or private, a child will be picked on. Kids are cruel to one another. Your daughter will learn to shrug it off and say, whatever. Does she have friends in the class?

Answer 4

I guess that I would say ask if you can go to her school for the day and observe her see what is really going on and if any thing I would not change her school. If she is the one being the bully changing schools is only going to teach her that it;s ok mommy will take care of me. And if it's not her you will move her any from all the things she knows and this might cause her to bring out anger in strange ways.

Answer 5

It doesnt matter how strong willed your child is, if anyone is being mean to her talk to the teacher. If after talking to the teacher doesnt help then go to the principle to make it stop. If these children are bullys at 5 it will only get worse with age. If after you talk to the principle it still doesnt stop, get meaner with them. Tell the principle its abuse, you not exceptable. If this child hit yours and yours hit back it would be concidered a fight and both kids would be suspenced. Ask him why is it okay for one kid to hit and get away with it like that. If it still happens hire a 6 year old to kick his butt. Call the kids mother and tell her that hes hitting etc and if doesnt stop that what goes around comes around. No I wouldnt take my child out of school, its important she learns these lessons now, how to deal with bullies, how to get along with other kids etc.