my best friend??

Question

I think my best friend and my future husband we are not engaged but he did promise me we would get married. gave me a ring and everything. I think they are falling for each other. what should i do to keep them from each other we hang out with the same crowd. She is at every party. They even hang out when im not around. I ask both of them if anything is going on they said no. I asked my boyfriend if she were to ever come on to him would he do anything he said she would seriously have to be really all over him for him to do anything. I asked her and she said "ewww he's like a hairy fat older brother" but they hang out and do things with out me while im at work what do you think i need some help here.

i forgot to mention she is skinnier and much prettier then i am.

Answer 1

While some might say you're just being paranoid, I believe in trusting instincts. If you've already confronted your best friend about your thoughts, and she continues to hang around so much with your boyfriend, I'd think seriously about getting rid of her - and your boyfriend.

Answer 2

It's normal for you to feel jealous, uneasy, uptight about your best friend getting close to your boyfriend-***-husband-to be.

I believe initially all of you hang out so that you can be with your best friend & with your boyfriend at the same time. It's normal for your best friend to be close to your boyfriend like good friends after all the outings they had.

Approach your friend and clear your doubts about her & your bf. Since she's your best friend, I believe she should understand what you're trying to ask & assure you nothing funny is happening & assure you not to worry. Perhaps, you may suggest to her that you'll feel better if she & your bf don't meet up alone too often without you.

And please, do create time alone with your bf. Do not be caught with your work etc. Your bf needs your companionship.

If he can't find you, naturally he'll look for your friend. And if he really swayed his feelings, at least you know it before things happened when both of you get married.

If there's problems bothering you, clear the air with your bf. Communicate nicely with him. Tell him you really loved him & wish to be with him, as planned. And do not wish anything to come in between the both of you. Tell him you're not comfortable about him spending more time with her than with you & and it's natural for you to feel paranoid & jealous.

Never give your whole heart to someone (including him) until you're completely sure that both of you are meant to be.

Answer 3

You need to sit them both down and tell them you think they are spending way too much time together, and while it may be innocent, it is making you uncomfortable. If they care about you, they will stop spending so much time together without you. If they act like you are over-reacting or making too big a deal out of it, then you know what you need to do! (dump BOTH of them!)

Answer 4

Go find another man girl... any man that would say 'she would have to be all over me to do anything' is not worth it. Oh yeah and if he gives you the ring but youre not engaged theres something wrong there... i wouldnt trust him for a million bucks baby.

Answer 5

he is cheating because they make up lame excuses calling each other brother and sister to through you off tell them you are uncomfortable when they hang out when your not around if they say that that is unfair or start the whole you don't trust me thing then they are definitely having an affair if they say thats fine then they are not having an affair.

Answer 6

You need to put a stop to this. Seriously me and my boyfriend where together for 5 years and thenhe cheated on me with my best friend i was letting them go have drinks at the bar and one night he never came home. so you need to stop this asap temtation is a *****.

Answer 7

If a guy told me, "she would seriously have to be really all over him for him to do anything"... that would be my sign, I would be LONG gone. I definitely wouldn't consider marriage w/ a guy like that.

Answer 8

i know what you mean about promising someone you'll marry them.

don't consider him your future husband because it isn't 100 percent. just let him prove it to you.

if your boyfriend is falling for your bestfriend, he won't marry you since he isn't faithful and committed

Answer 9

Sounds, suspisious!!! Get another friend,{ U TRUST}, to help u, "set them up". They say,"The Video", cam., is a great, "TOOL"!!!!!!!!! use one if ya gotta !!! I'm sorry, but, " I'd Lay a 500$$ ", BET, on they r screwingggggg,{each other} !!!!!

Answer 10

There is nothing that you can do to keep them away from eachother. Just stay confident that he will be yours, and things will go your way.