she's 15 and when my 6 year old is with her and her friends (another problem , she invites her friends over when she babysits). he picks up certain words that i don't like my kids saying. i asked her about it, and she said he wasn't getting it from her, he was getting it from my 16 year old son. he denies knowing anything about it. what can i do to stop this? who should i believe? both of the older ones haven't been very trustworthy lately, and it's not from the tv, we don't watch very much of that.
2007-03-14 02:57:52 · 10 answers · asked by luv my kids nasty comm. unwanted 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
i don't care if it's healthy for a 6 year old to swear or not. i don't want my kids talking like that.
2007-03-14 03:09:50 · update #1
Swearing is an important part of the growing up years.. Learning how to cuss and being able to string a host of words together can make for some interesting conversations. And it prepares the boy for real life situations.
Usually if you ignore the occasional cuss word, they tend to quit using them, it is when you blow a gasket that the kids like to increase the steam pressure.
2007-03-14 03:07:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋
I had a similar problem. I have custody of my grandson who is now 7 and he "hung" out with my 16 year old son and his buddies. It is almost impossible to monitor what your teenagers are saying but it would be good to point out to them that their younger brother looks up to them and uses them as examples...so they should watch what they say and do around him. My grandson who is now 7 had quite an "impressive" vocabulary by the time he was 4. What I did was sit him down and explain that some words are just plain rude and if he just had to say them he could but he had to go into the bathroom and close the door to say them. He thought this was just too much work and trouble so with only a few slip ups we haven't had any problems since. He asks me to come into the bathroom with him when he is telling me a story about someone using a bad word but I suggest that he just tell me the letter the "bad" word begins with instead (I personally am I not that interested in hanging out in the bathroom listing to "dirty" stories :) If your son attends daycare or a school there is a very good possibility that he is picking up a lot of stuff there too from the other kids his own age.
2007-03-14 03:16:37 · answer #2 · answered by mental 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you, I don't want my son swearing either. It is not an important part of growing up like the first guy posted. I would ask the 6 year old who he is hearing those words from. Chances are he doesn't even know what they mean or know that they are bad when he says them. Just emphasize that those are not nice words and nobody should be saying them, but if he does hear them, to not repeat them because it is wrong. Kids don't have to watch a lot of TV to pick up bad stuff, most of it comes from their peers. Good Luck.
2007-03-14 03:15:54 · answer #3 · answered by Caleb's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK i had this problem to and here is what i did
the 2 older children need to be sat down and you tell them
the 6 year old is my child not yours i do not want him talking like this and sense i know he learned it from one of the two of you and neither of you will tell the truth here is what we are going to do
every time the lil one uses one of these words your both in trouble for each work you lose 2 days privileges no TV phone video games or friends over
the one doing it will stop and the one not teaching the lil one bad words will be anger at the one that is and fear punishment so this solves both problems you will find out who is doing it and it will stop
2007-03-14 11:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly even i agree that childrens ought to'nt swear, I certainly have 3 babies of my own, 2 daughter elderly 3 and 5 and a 4 month infant boy. My eldest began employing undesirable language and that i finished her via punishing her for it, like no television or no twiddling with acquaintances, especially circumstances she might sulk yet ultimately she realised her mistake and stopped swearing altogether. As difficult as that's only attempt to maintain your newborn(ren) removed from human beings or different babies who use swear words as such. in the adventure that your pal has a difficulty alongside with your reaction then i think you ought to purpose to speak to her first and then she would understand you and your concerns slightly extra useful!!
2016-11-25 19:26:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be consequences. If the older kids are swearing, they should be grounded - restricted from doing things they enjoy, tv, phone calls, socializing.
The younger one is old enough to know what's right and wrong, there should be consequences for him as well.
I don't know, I'd think that after 16 kids you'd have a handle on this by now.
2007-03-14 03:24:08 · answer #6 · answered by §Sally§ 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Make it clear to both of your 16-yr olds that regardless of who is and isn't swearing around the little one, that they should do everything they can to make sure that they, or their friends swear around their little brother. I can't really give you a way to find out if they're lying or not, but you just need to make sure that they are clear on what is going to happen from here on out.
Also, start teaching your little one that those swear words aren't allowed, and he should not say them. That way, if he does come across them, you can help him keep them out of his own vocabulary. Good luck!
2007-03-14 07:48:28 · answer #7 · answered by prplluva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 is not too old to get an @ss whooping. she lives in your house and you take care of her, if she can't obey by your rules then theres a problem. if you got 16 kids then you really need them to know whos boss. if something happened in your house while you were gone and your daughter had her friends there, you would be responsible. your daughter is disrespecting you and her friends think its okay because she does it, so they disrespect you too. being 15 and 16 im pretty sure your kids want money to do things, and i know they ask you for that money, tell them no. why should you give your money to them if they don't listen?
2007-03-14 03:15:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
kids usually say bad words because they want attention. dont freak out every time he says a bad word, but just remind him calmly that he should not be saying that word as its disrespectful.
2007-03-14 05:25:54 · answer #9 · answered by ctllas4eva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look like you are going to need to have serious talk with all of your childre and make them stop.
2007-03-16 14:18:22 · answer #10 · answered by Missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋