Traditionally, people always look at the bride and want to ask details about the wedding and the ring and the whatever else. But my fiancee feels that the whole process will just stress him out and it might change our relationship. This is obviously the last thing I want. So does anyone have tips on how I can keep from overloading him with talk about the wedding, but still keep him involved?
2007-03-14 02:51:36 · 18 answers · asked by red 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Get his opinion on things.
Maybe when you decide on something narrow it down to two or three things of something you like and then go over them with him so the final descion is both of your guys' ideas. That way you aren't overloading him with 100 different choices on things but he can still put in his input.
Praise him when he makes good decisions. All men love praise and affection from their ladies!!!
2007-03-14 02:59:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We have one night a week were we discuss the wedding and not much else, I skip small things like favors or napkins, and I've asked him to help with the big things, like choosing the DJ and the kind of Limo he wants. We have about 11 months until our big day so we both know that the once a week won't last much longer but we plan on reversing and having at least 1 night where we don't talk about the wedding at all and just be together to make sure we remeber just the reasons why we got engaged in the first place. We have been lucky people tend to ask me about the wedding when he's off doing guy things with other guys, like BBQing outside and the ladies are inside, most people realize that the woman knows the details and will ask away from him... Best Wishes!!!!
2007-03-14 03:32:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him to a spa for a total workover. Make sure his hair and dental work is up to par, so he is feeling his best! This is just a brief moment in time for you two to be the stars -- tell him to savor it. Take video's and play them back so he can see himself and relax a bit. This is a brief moment in your lives when important memories are being made. Don't bother him with small decisions as he is a guy and most of these things he doesn't need to be bothered with. Show the respect that your future husband deserves.
By the way, congratulations!
2007-03-14 03:02:04 · answer #3 · answered by Angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should have to "build him up". Traditonally it's the bride's day to be honest, he should still be involved in the decision making and steps to planning the wedding =) Not only that, he shouldn't feel overwhelmed with it. It's really BOTH of your day! Unless he's turning into either a control freak or the "what about me" syndrome, you shouldn't have too many issues....best wishes!!
2007-03-14 02:57:05 · answer #4 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You surely don't need to "build him up" unnecessarily - sounds really odd. You just have to be mature and do as most couples do, plan things together. After all, it's NOT just the bride's day. Make sure you spend time with him talking about the marriage, and not just the wedding.
2007-03-14 03:38:14 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother him with the things a guy wouldn't care about anyways. Ask him about the groomsmen gifts, the music for the reception what He wants to wear that day its his wedding to.And of course the cake tasting and food. And ask him if there is anything special he wants done.
2007-03-14 03:12:05 · answer #6 · answered by schristine23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to cause trouble, but your fiance sounds a little immature. Most women have been planning their wedding since they were little girls, and it is the one day of their lives that they will feel like a princess- beautiful dress, hair and make-up perfect, etc., etc. I don't understand how the planning will "stress him out". If he really loves you, he will understand how important and special this day is for you.
2007-03-14 03:40:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance tries to stay involved. He went to both of my bridal showers, which was really nice. It gave him a chance to meet some of my family in a more relaxed setting, and he introduced me to a lot of his family members that I have never met.
He's also helped me out a lot on decorations, invitations, and other purchases we've made together.
He tags along a lot I guess you could say! LOL
I always remind him that this is OUR wedding!
2007-03-14 02:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by sweetxgrace 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance is VERY involved in the wedding plans.
Make sure you ask his opinions or find out what HIS ideas are. Its his wedding too :)
If you and your groom are talking to someone, let HIM explain some details or ideas. Even though they may be talking to you about it, he can answer as well.
Congrats!
2007-03-14 03:12:02 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds insecure and immature. If you have to build him up and reassure him about this, it will continue for as long as you are married to him. It will always be something he will be whining about. A, he is afraid he might be stressed out. B, you are afraid of his being left out. And how is calling florists and dressmakers going to "change our relationship"? Good luck, you are going to need it. And a lot of patience too.
2007-03-14 03:41:50 · answer #10 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋