How do I stop worrying about my relationship coming to an end? I mean I talked to my boyfriend for 2 hours last night, he calls to tell me about his day, last week he was announcing his desire to marry me in front of his guys friends and what do I think? I think that one little thing is going to be it...I get this fear in my head that he is getting bored, that he is going to breakup with me, that he isnt interested. I don't know why I am being like this again, in the beginning I was really good. I often try to picture myself without him and I know I would be okay...that I could get through everyday, I have done it before. Why cant I just wake up and be happy about it, and not worry that something I do or say will be the end of our relationship. Or worry because I wont see him for a week and fear that he might decide he would rather be with out me? I think I just have this negative doubt that leers over everything.....
2007-03-14 02:39:06 · 9 answers · asked by Belize 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have had bad experiences in past relationships that make me feel insecure. My boyfriend is great and has given me no reason to doubt him. We have been dating for 8 months and have never fought.
2007-03-14 02:52:01 · update #1
It sounds like you afariad. It's common and that only shows that you truly care about this guy... If you feel that things are getting boring, go out and do something you usually don't do with each other... n the more time u spend apart the more time u have to miss each other when your apart.
Good Luck I wish the best to you
2007-03-14 02:45:32 · answer #1 · answered by pj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i feel u. im the same way, and i have no idea why. my bf is great, he always tells me that he loves me, that he is never felt like this before. and he has made a few sacrifises for me so i know he cares about me. but i still cant help to feel like will dump me one day. and when we fight i cant just let go i have to make up before going to sleep if not i wont be able to close one eye. i hate been like that. cuz instead of enjoying our relationship i think negative. i have no idea what to tell u since im the same way. but at least i wanted u to know that ur not alone. and i think that the only thing to do is try really hard to shake those negative feelings away and concentrate only in the good stuff. good luck 4 u and me :-)
2007-03-14 02:48:19 · answer #2 · answered by Blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've just named your fear.
Rejection.
Even though it's a hard fear to conquer, you will. If you truly love and trust your boyfriend, let go of the negative voices in your head. They'll do nothing but get in the way.
2007-03-14 03:13:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand what you went through and I too feel the same thing although in a different context. Perhaps we have to take a step back and really think if anything is distracting our thoughts about them in the 1st place. such as being too close to other sex. cheers.
2007-03-14 02:43:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that you love him so much,
i always worried about my boyfriend, that i worried one day he will leave me. but in the end that time has came, he leaved without saying goodbye, and i didn't see him on that day.
do you know i been cry about 4 months now since he left but one think i never worried that he remember, i know he neverforgetten me. now i am hurt we love each other but i didn't never expected he will leaved me, i am hurt so much.. but i am feeling peaceful that i never be disappoint that i chosen to love him, i don't think i love the wrong person.
i will not upset that he leaved me for important reason
2007-03-14 02:57:01 · answer #5 · answered by 2Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop playing around. Search for a legal boyfriend: a husband!!
2007-03-14 03:31:54 · answer #6 · answered by mujdad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know how u r going 2 stop worrying, but that worrying is going 2 run him away if u dont figure out how 2 stop
2007-03-14 02:50:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you think that maybe because of past relationships you have had - it seems like he is a great guy - try to stay focused on your relationship with him and nothing more.
2007-03-14 02:42:09 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to work on your self esteem.
2007-03-14 02:45:03 · answer #9 · answered by Betty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋