I'm 5 weeks pregnant in a 4 mth relationship w/ a preacher. Obviously, we were moving too fast. I didin't listen to my gut when it told me to leave him alone, so now i'm 20, pregnant, still at home, have a mediocre job, and not really interested in this relationship. I'm not really feeling well being knocked up and all, so work is kind of taking the back seat. He a preacher, so NOW he's starting to DISAPPEAR into "church". Any advice?
2007-03-14 02:27:36 · 18 answers · asked by jaye 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you are not prepared to have a child. Its hard being a single parent. I am pro-choice. Everyone on here who says, "Don't have an abortion..." isn't responsible for raising that baby - you will be. Are these people going to babysit for you so you can go to work? Are they going to take up a collection so you can buy diapers and clothing and formula? Are they going to help you pay for doctor's visits? Are they going to come over and get up with the baby several times a night and then get up to go to work the next day? Are they going to pay for this baby's college tuition? No. They aren't. And its so easy to tell people what to do when it isn't THEIR life or their decision.
I'm not saying you should have an abortion. I'm not saying you shouldn't. What you SHOULD do, is get to the doctor an discuss your options. And decide what is best for YOU. Take it from someone who's been there...
Ever hear about the babies found dead in trash dumpsters? Yeah, those were young girls who didn't want their baby and should of had the abortion. I'd sooner abort an unwanted pregnancy than have it end up like that...
Good luck!
P.S. Your chances of having health complications from giving birth are far greater than they are when you have an abortion...just a little FYI there.
2007-03-14 02:41:19 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥Mrs SSG B♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE DON'T GET AN ABORTION! There is another option--adoption! Put your baby up for adoption! Abortion is horrible! If I shot you, and both you and the baby died, I would be charged of TWO murders--yours, and the unborn baby's. You would be killing an innocent child--don't do it! I'm sorry to say, but you were the one who got yourself into this mess--not the baby! The baby didn't ask to be created or born! Don't blame your actions on the baby by killling it. That's horrible. Plus, abortions could screw up your insides--there once was a girl who got an abortion, and it screwed up her bowel...now she has to wear a bag hanging out the front of her to catch the poop when it comes out! Disgusting, huh?
It can also cause future problems for if you get married and try to have more children. You may not be able to have kids!
2007-03-14 10:02:41 · answer #2 · answered by horsesareforever 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have the baby if you don't want it some one else with take him or her and love it NO TO ABORTION!!!!! I would expose this so called preacher for what he really is, contact the church, make him step up and be responsible for what has happened, it's not the babies fault why should the baby pay with his life for what the two of you have done?
2007-03-14 09:39:47 · answer #3 · answered by inmate3685 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it's not right for you abort it if you don't think you can provide what it needs to be happy. It will need a family to be born into rather than a couple staying together for the childs sake. You might resent it for changing your life and not allowing you to do the things you wanted to. Putting it up for adoption may lead it to pursue you in later life and you may spend your life asking 'what if?'
2007-03-14 09:40:28 · answer #4 · answered by Dr Sherior 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't have an abortion. My best friend is thinking about doing this same thing and it just breaks my heart. You and this guy both knew the consequences of your actions when you did what you did. You knew that this could happen and you did it anyway. No matter how you feel about this situation, you have a living, growing person inside of you that doesn't deserve to be killed because you made a mistake. At least give the baby up for adoption please.
2007-03-14 09:38:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What would you tell your best friend? Think carefully. Babies need more than love, they need security and happiness. There are other options than abortions - adoption for one. But do yourself a favour now, and listen to your gut instinct. You know what you can live with.
Good luck, honey.
2007-03-14 09:32:31 · answer #6 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He NEEDS to take responsibility for his actions because you didnt make this baby on your own.
Taking care of one is hard work but do your best to want to.
Aborting it is not going to help out in any way you may even feel worse afterwards. If you think about it and still want nothing to do with having a baby put it up for adoption instead. but first you need to talk to him about it because he needs to help out in every way he can -
2007-03-14 09:40:37 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, If u made the 'choice' to have sex knowing the possibitly u could get pregnant then u shouldnt get an abortion. If u dont want it give it 4 adoption or something. U shoulnt be having sex with deabeat guys to begin with
2007-03-14 09:33:06 · answer #8 · answered by Keira 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its not really the babies fault here. You are partially responsible for the condition your in. I hope you realize this. You enjoyed the sex and now there are consequesces to your actions. It would be my hope that you would put the child up for adoption to a loving home and move on with your life after that.
2007-03-14 09:34:25 · answer #9 · answered by Devdude 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is really up to you what you do. Having kids is hard. You have to make a choice you can live with though. If you can live with the fact that you had an abortion--I think that is better than having a child you can't take care of, but it will stay with you forever.
2007-03-14 09:40:31 · answer #10 · answered by Audrey C 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋