She is 40 and I'm 35. I only see her say every 5 years, but each time I do see her she'll say to me, "I remember when you were a little girl and all it used to be with you is you're either tired, hungry or cold". It really gets on my nerves. For goodness sake, it's years ago. I've never heard her say anything nice to me, it's always been negative. She's not nasty, but when she does say something, it's never a praise. She was even jealous of my playing with (when we were children) another male cousin and her face of disgust said it all then.
2007-03-14 02:10:51 · 16 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You might find that is her low self esteem that makes her feel that she has to put you down. Some people can only make themselves feel better by putting those around them down. It's not your problem in as much as its not what you are doing thats wrong, because by the sounds of it, she is going to find fault with you one way or another. I suggest that you tell her how you feel about her negative ways for a change, and then suggest that she gets somekind of counselling in order to help her low self esteem. This works two ways, if she continues to "pick" at you just refer back to you telling her about the counselling and it also makes her realise that she isn't perfect either and also makes others aware that she also is negative to others as well as them . You will find that she isn't like it just with you but in general to other people. Try to develop a thicker skin. Just remember there are always going to be people like her in this world but its their problem, not yours! So don't let it become one. xx
2007-03-14 04:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by tcn58 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my mother
Glass always, always half empty
Never a positive thing to say - its a put down. She feels inferior or in some way intimidated so she has to say something that is vaguely negative
Skip the next 5 year meeting so the next time you see her its 10 year away and then why should you care?
2007-03-14 09:19:28 · answer #2 · answered by london.oval 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well honey...treat people the same way they treat you....thats the whole top and bottom of it..when you see her again, give her the same feedback that she gives you...or better still ignore her with a smile..or say "well...you know what....when you have something interesting to say...then come back and say it but for now...shut up and leave"....i have no time for negative people either....by what you put in your message, it sounds like she's 80...not 40...theres ony 5 years difference between you both...maybe she is jealous...whats wrong with hanging out with a male cousin, i still do to this day, he's m best friend....she needs to get a personality adjustment my dear...just ignore her....or treat her like she treats you....she's obviously got issues of her own and that's why she is so negative with you...don't let it bother you...
2007-03-14 09:20:26 · answer #3 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 40. You see her every 5 years. That's 8 times in your life so far. Haven't you got anything more important to worry about ?
2007-03-14 10:00:06 · answer #4 · answered by misbehave4me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, Im with bina64davis up there, just make it known that you realize she didnt like you then and let it go. who knows once its pointed out to her she may change her attitude, but if not, heck its hers, let her have it and be happy anyway! usually people do that out of jealousy and because they are so unhappy they have to be sure and point out little tiny flaws or what ever in everyone else so they can make themselves feel better...
2007-03-14 09:26:53 · answer #5 · answered by just me #1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her all you remember about her from growing up is her contant whining and jealousy which hasn't changed a bit over the years.
2007-03-14 10:41:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is jealous of you. You should tell her that was years ago and could she stop bringing it up every time you meet.
2007-03-14 09:16:21 · answer #7 · answered by Dom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my pops is a negative person
he pulls out a problem in everything
thats how some people are
when they reach their level
they cant turn back
bein positive is much better you feel more different
n everythin goes by flow !!
2007-03-14 09:15:32 · answer #8 · answered by THUG LIFE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello... some people are just negative! can't change them.
i'm sure it gets on your nerves... i'd just smile at her and let it go.
be happy you don't have to live in the past to get through today!
all the best!
2007-03-14 09:56:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
l think she is just trying to remember your childhood lifestyle. but if you don't like it why not tell her, she is your cousin you know how you can chip it in. do it politely, when she come to realise that you dont like it then she will stop it
2007-03-14 11:29:32 · answer #10 · answered by babygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋