My aunt is dying of alcoholic cirrhosis. She is dying, but will be in and out of hospital for maybe 2-6 months until the end. I know she caused it herself, but I still feel sorry for her and her loss of life. A "Get Well Soon!" card seems inappropriate; any suggestions on kind, loving, polite things to write in a bank card?
2007-03-14 02:02:29 · 22 answers · asked by P-nuts and Hair-dos 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Thanks for all the great responses. Should have mentioned that she is in Canada, and I live in Thailand. I will see her in the summer, but can't afford to fly all that way until then.
Thanks for the kindness in your answers too.
2007-03-14 22:46:57 · update #1
I'm very sorry for what your aunt is going through and I know it isn't easy on her family. I've been there.
A "Get Well Soon" card does seem inappropriate. Good call. I'd suggest you get a blank card and write something up yourself. Be honest and say something like
"There's nothing I can say to make things better but I just wanted to make sure you knew how much you meant to me." Keep it positive. Let her know you care about her and give her a reason to smile.
2007-03-14 02:07:00 · answer #1 · answered by Q&A Queen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually writing an actual LETTER is always more polite than sending a store-bought greeting card. Write her a letter and regularly send her postcards until the end, to show how much you care for her.
You're right, a Get Well card would be extremely inmappropriate.
When my mom's friend was dying, she would send her ballons and cards that said "To Cheer You."
2007-03-14 10:38:23 · answer #2 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not get her a card that's humorous - something that might make her laugh and lift her spirits, if only for a few minutes. There are lots of funny hospital related cards. The last thing she needs right now are deep thoughts reminding of her upcoming death.
The other thing would be a big bouquet of tulips or spring flowers, with a card just saying simply - thinking of you.
2007-03-14 02:09:08 · answer #3 · answered by Lucy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very difficult to deal with a situation that you know there is a definitive ending,such as death.
Just try to be as supportive as possible,trying to grant as many of your aunt's wishes as you can.
At this point,it does not matter whether she caused her own demise or not,she needs understanding,comfort,care and love.She is probably having a very hard time forgiving herself,and wants to know that everyone around her forgives her before she departs this life.Actions will speak much more than a card can ever do in a situation such as this.
2007-03-14 02:13:15 · answer #4 · answered by 1st Responder FF/EMT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a blank card and write what you feel about her in it. Tell her how she needs to be strong . Tell her how you love her. You do not have to make it too dramatic as no matter how someone is coming near the end they never believe it will happen to them..so something positive upbeat and she will appreciate it..I am sorry for her and for you too.
2007-03-14 02:40:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be appropriate to send her a brief note saying that she will be in your prayers and simply that you are thinking of her. That will be comforting enough, and not callous as a Get Well card when it's apparent she isn't going to recover. Perhaps you could also include a reference to some good time you had together: "I will never forget the time we..." or "I have always cherished our holidays together..."
2007-03-14 02:06:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about spending time with her... bring her flowers, every woman loves flowers... take her out for lunch, or play cards, paint her nails.. do something just for her...
in the end a card is just a card.. would you rather remember, when she's gone, giving her a card or getting to spend some of her last days with her..
2007-03-14 02:16:57 · answer #7 · answered by lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter what she is dying from at all. She will be gone, according to you, as we all will one day.
You could write her a note about how you felt about her, when you were a child. I know my memories of childhood were the happiest and I loved everyone.
As in "I remember when . . .. . . . . .. " got it?
She will remember and probably really appreciate the memory.
Bless
2007-03-14 04:36:46 · answer #8 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps better to write some heart felt emotions and feelings. Maybe speak of faith and god and house being in order.
2007-03-14 02:06:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Recall a funny or exciting moment, both of you shared. Tell her, from your heart, how sad this is for you. Anything, along those lines would be appropriate.
2007-03-14 02:08:58 · answer #10 · answered by rustybones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋