Is it acceptable to invite someone to your bridal shower if they are not invited to the wedding?
2007-03-14 01:50:21 · 18 answers · asked by soon2bmrs 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
IF you invite them to the bridal shower, than they are probably expecting a invitation to the wedding. I think, from experience, that if you dont want them coming to the Wedding, do not invite them to the Bridal Shower, but thats your choice. *Good luck* Congrats*
2007-03-14 07:04:09 · answer #1 · answered by heidi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only circumstance where that is acceptable is if the person is not able to attend the wedding but has requested to come to or throw the/a shower. Otherwise, inviting someone to a shower in lieu of inviting them to the wedding is poor etiquette. This kind of happened to me and I haven't even had a shower yet. A good friend of mine from college is going to be out of the country for the summer. She won't be able to make the wedding but she wants to throw me a bridal shower.
2007-03-14 10:53:25 · answer #2 · answered by tehuskey513 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a major no-no.
You're making that person feel like they're being used for a gift. If they're good enough to be invited to a bridal shower, then they're good enough to be invited to the wedding.
Oh and don't be like my future mother in law and invite EVERY single female on the guest list to the bridal shower. That was just rediculous. A lot of these people were distant cousins, and I did not know them.
2007-03-14 09:21:52 · answer #3 · answered by sweetxgrace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. Since showers are usually a gift giving type party and the wedding is the celebration of the nuptuals, it appears as though inviting someone to the shower is just asking for a gift, even if it is not intended that way.
2007-03-14 08:59:16 · answer #4 · answered by Liesl W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if they have told you that they cannot come to the wedding...usually everyone invited to the bridal shower comes to the wedding; it's par for the course.
2007-03-14 08:54:58 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If someone is invited to the shower they expect to be invited to the wedding. If you just invite someone to the shower it is going to look like you were only out for gifts
2007-03-14 09:02:08 · answer #6 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you this, I had a very small wedding and my MIL invited a lot of women who were not invited to our wedding to my shower, I was VERY uncomfortable with this. I felt so badly that these women bought me gifts and then were not there to see me get married. Who knows, maybe it was a ploy by my MIL to get us to invite these extra women, thats the kind of person she is, or maybe it was for the gifts. But all I can say is, I had no idea these women would be there and when I saw them I was mortified at the bad manners displayed by my MIL for inviting them, which reflected on me in a poor light.
Dont do it.
2007-03-14 10:21:13 · answer #7 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it is never acceptable. And it doesn't take me having to refer to some "Proper Etiquette" book to know that. It is common sense and common courtesy. You invite someone to the bridal shower. They are automatically invited to the wedding. Its a no-brainer.
2007-03-14 09:31:11 · answer #8 · answered by Kimmy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, positively not. If you invite them to the shower, you invite them to the wedding.
2007-03-14 09:29:11 · answer #9 · answered by sylvia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not unless it is a very odd circumstance like the person is being shipped to Iraq after the shower/before the wedding but really wants to come...but normally, no.
2007-03-14 08:53:47 · answer #10 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋