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Question

My fiance and I broke up, I lied to her about somthing insignificant, somthing i had done in my past and it turned out to be somthing else, yes it was somthing dirty and degrading, but i sought theropy for it for 2 years, and I am done with that part of my life. She said she couldn't live with what i told her, Key word being "couldn't", We are on very good terms and we talk every day still through text messaging. I saw her last weekend at our friends birthday party, She was very drunk and very sad about somthing. She didn't say what at the party. She even came down and got me alone to talk to me. She told me She had found an older man to "do stuff with" as she put it, but she said she isn't looking for a relationship. She broke up with him last night and i was the first person she called. I guess what i want to ask is, Girls? Do you think that she still likes me/loves me, just wants me to be a good friend? I don't know what to think at this point. Do you think i still have a chance?

I have moved on, I am currently seeing 2 girls right now, one i like more than the other. It seems as though she doesn't want to move on, God i wish Kids wouldn't answer these kinds of questions...... I honestly figured Unconditional love, ment UNCONDITIONAL..... and also she was ready to be my wife, Its not that bad, what i said to her. It's not something that would make any normal person cringe, scream in terror and run away.

I won't tell you the Thing that i lied about, It is Illegal and I don't want to get into it, I am done talking about that part of my life forever. I'm the only one that should have to live with it anyway.

Thank you too the people who actually understand this. We have moved on for the most part, except she text's me every day, and she also wants to hang out alone with me on occasion, I mean don't get me wrong, I LOVE the fact that she still even pay's any kind of attention at all. I love the fact that she still cares about me. I love the fact that she wants to be my best friend too. But like i said, we are free to do what we like, I'm not a Jealous person, I don't get upset, Hell she could have slept with 50 guys already, the important thing was she felt the need to tell me she found someone else. I don't know why, I don't know what made her do it but she did. and when they broke up, she called me up crying because the guy called her "chubby" which i assure you she's not, and that she needed to grow her hair out, she has got the cutest hair in the world though!! haha

Answer 1

Well for one she probably is having trouble accepting you. Girls are very sensative and I don't think that if she left you for it that she will come back. She probably wants to like you but she is afraid of falling for you because of your past and it doesn't seem very good! Girls are complicated but I think at this point I wouldn't confuse her become a best friend to her and then let her know you are sorry and then let her make up her mind and let her do it on her own!But if she's trying to get over you she's having a hard time because she called you first!

Answer 2

It's like the song says, "what's love got to do with it?" If the two of you dated, got engaged, and spoke of getting married I'm sure she loves you. The problem here isn't whether or not she loves you, the problem is she can't live the rest of her life with your past. What you have told her has changed her mind about the sort of person she thought you were. Which is terribly conflicting and painful.

Were I you I would give her some room. You two were very close, you were a big part of her life, be there for her when she reaches out. Continue to be the person you were when she fell in love with you. This may be a bump in the road, a bump the two of you can sort out. After she's had some time to think about it, and come to terms with it she very well may come back.

Love does not abruptly end because of something like this. The problem is sifting through other emotions to get back to simply loving each other.

Answer 3

You sound like you've made peace with your past and know what you want in your life. I don't think it's healthy for you to be with someone that is throwing your past in your face. Look up what is says about love in Corrithians in the bible, then look up about judging others in Mathew(also in bible). This girl sounds lost. It sounds like you guys had a sexual bond. She sounds like she has low self-esteem, and thinks sex is love from what you wrote. She acts like she has guilt issues too. Just be her friend. That's what she needs right now. I don't think she should drink o get drunk either until she can handle her emotions better. Compliment her as much as you can, as a friend, and move on. I think she's got some stuff to go through yet. Let her know you care for her and always will, and that you'll always be attracted to her, but she needs to know where she stands in this world and knowone can do that but her. She can't reley on a man to make her happy and be the best her. You can't change her and she can't change you. She might not be excepting your past because she can't except hers. Good luck.

Answer 4

What did you do ??? Anyways sounds like she still care for you even in love with you, i think because she still care a great deal about you she is desperately trying to get over you she is obviously hurt (drinking,looking sad, doing stuff w older man ) but whatever you told her was devastating to her ,to the point even though she cares about you she can not be with you .I would move on for now and continue on being her friend after you totally get her out of your system
Good luck

Answer 5

Yes. Maybe she's just needing some time to sort out her feelings about what you lied to her about. Be there for her to talk to, and be open with communication.

But don't ignore your needs either. If you two broke up, then you're a single guy. If you find someone else to date too, you should give it a try. Not everyone will find what you did "dirty and degrading", but try not to lie to people, just choose how much you want to tell them at first. Alot of things are just none of people's business. period.

Answer 6

Hey, if youv'e moved on then try to make the best of this new situation. If she can't accept your past before her then you have no future. Remaining friends with this chic is bad news for you too, all it is going to do is screw you up even more, the best thing to do is have no contact with her. Remember always SHE was the one who couldn't live with you.

Answer 7

maybe she does, she might just see you as someone she can always talk to because of what you had. the best thing to do, is when she is not so upset talk to her. she is the only person that can tell you for sure. just be her friend and let her know you will always be there for her. she is obviously hurt and needs time to heal.

Answer 8

I don't believe in this "staying friends" business ... I think you should either come back together or give each other all the freedom to move on.

Good luck, pal!

CK

Answer 9

Yes I think she still likes u and loves you. If u can trust her go back to her. I think after reading all those it isnt a bad prospect to go back to her. Good luck 4 ur life.

Answer 10

We need to know the little insignificant thing you did in order to give you an honest answer. Evidently it was not insignificant to her!..........So tell us......I promise it won't go any further than here!