ok..so I have just recently broke up with the love of my life. Two years ago, him and I met. Ive seen him off and on for that long. Finally in Dec. he asks me out. Weve so called dated up until about 3 days ago. ive tried to break it off several times. He has been married and has a 5 yr old son. Well, for the whole 2 years, ive never officially met his son. He never took me out. We would go to his friends house and play cards and such but never on a date. Wal-Mart one time...just here recently. I was soo good to him. Emotionally, physically.... you name it, i did it. I felt like he was just using me, so i broke it off. i have already started talking to another man, that wants everything i want. and more. But now I cant seem to get the ex off my mind. I had never loved. I know Im in love with him. What can I do to actually make him want me? Hes never taken me around his family or out. I dont get it. I am cute and know it. I know that im not the problem. what should i do? is he using me
2007-03-14 00:33:38 · 12 answers · asked by Brandi F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, love is a thing that does not listen to the brain. Try and find out if he is really married and has a kid. If its so, the best thing to do is convince yourself that he is taken and forget the past. If you can't do it - he must get separated and live with you - I don't see how he would live with two people at once.
There is no place for being used. You must definitely know by your gut feeling if he is using you. The world is big enough, you will surely be able to find a better person and make you life better.
2007-03-14 00:46:55 · answer #1 · answered by sujatha_sudhakaran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just not possible, no matter how much you try, to MAKE someone more interested in you than they are. The best advice I can give is to move on. Give yourself a while to shake him off, get involved in other things in life, lean on friends, then move on. You don't want someone that doesn't treat you right. A man that cares for a woman treats her so much better than what you've described. You don't want to be in a relationship that makes you feel as though you're not wanted or loved, it's just not fair to yourself.
Another thing, if you sit back and think about it....are you sure he's not still married? Part of dating someone is introducing that person into your social circle meaning friends and family. I promise you that if you haven't met his friends, haven't been introduced to his son (even as Daddy's friend), haven't been taken out to see and be seen by people then there is something wrong with this picture. Do yourself a favor and ask around, find out what the real story is. I'm sure it will make you feel a lot better.
I wish you the best of luck in love.
2007-03-14 00:42:25 · answer #2 · answered by Khael 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot believe the pair of you lasted so long. If you want him back because you love him you need to have a serious talk with him about why you've never met his son, why you've never met his family and why you've never been out on a proper date. Personally I would not have been with him for so long if it was me. If he doesn't love or like you the way you do with him is he worth it? Please remember you could be wasting your time with him - do you want to spend another few years in the same situation? There might be no changing him and you need to decide if you want him how he is or not at all. Good luck.
2007-03-14 00:38:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that your a good looking person and im sure you are,Deep down in your heart you now that you deserve better you want someone that is there for you and doesn't make you feel used. You say that you have never been loved but one day you will find that person that will love you for you and treat you with the Love and Respect that you deserve.
2007-03-14 00:46:18 · answer #4 · answered by Sherica T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he is truely using you. He wants you when he wants you and when hes busy, its too bad for you. If he is not introducing you to his child after 2 years, that is a problem. If he is not incorperating you into his daily life after 2 years that is a problem. Hes hiding something. He cant have his cake and eat it too! If this other guy respects you and you have a lot in common, go for it. You will stop thinking about your ex once you are experiencing a healthy relationship.
2007-03-14 00:39:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not go back to your ex. He's married having a 5-year old son. You personally think he tried to 'use' you. Having all this I cannot recommend it. Try to forget him. Hes never taken u out anyway so dump him. You can find a much better love, sure...
2007-03-14 00:40:30 · answer #6 · answered by Chaste 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are obviously his side action. he invests no real effort to your "relationship", and get what he wants. or maybe he's tore up about his past marriage, and isn't ready to do the whole courting ritual again and was in it for a good time and assumed you were as well. I seriously doubt he is the love of your life from your limited relationship you shared though
2007-03-14 00:38:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he's just using you cause he knows how much you love/like him.....and that youre there whenever he wants you.dont allow yourself to be used....you can do better than that.you cant make anyone want you.and if you "have" to make someone want you...then thats not good.he should be the one all over you not the other way around.find someone better.you dont need him no matter how much you say you love him.just move on....
2007-03-14 00:42:18 · answer #8 · answered by Itsjustme 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe u shud tlk 2 him nd c wot hes got to say nd if its ment to be he'll do nefin to be with u!but if not then try to get to know this new lad and see wot he's like!x!gd luck xx
2007-03-14 00:37:28 · answer #9 · answered by jadie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're obviously being used. Move on.
2007-03-14 00:37:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋