I met this guy 3 weeks ago, we have been on 2 dates and the first we made out. The second ended up with us both half naked. If I wouldnt have stopped it, we would have had sex. The thing is I am 20 and a virgin. he is also 20 but I doubt a virgin. I dont want a physical only relationship. I cant entirely blame him becuase I didnt stop him mostly because I was afraid of him getting angry which I know is a stupid reason. I just want things to slow down. What do I do? i dont want him to hate me.
2007-03-14 00:22:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thats what I think, he is just attracted to me physically and I want more than that so I am waiting awhile. If he gets annoyed, I'm gone.
2007-03-14 00:29:06 · update #1
Im not a lesbian, I really did want to have sex but I am not ready after 2 dates.
2007-03-14 00:31:30 · update #2
and i dont want an ONLY physical relationship
2007-03-14 00:31:56 · update #3
well its not uncommon for a female to go a little bit further than she wants b/c of fear to make a guy mad, so i understand the feeling.... but this guy sounds too aggressive.. you should leave him alone and date a guy who is not in a race to get some. you need a guy who is more chill, one who is not gonna rush you ............ so step back, and walk away from the guy with the loaded tool...... slowly!
2007-03-14 00:51:06 · answer #1 · answered by jazzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is it you dont want a physical relationship? do you think you might be a lesbian? I dont understand if your 20 and when your naked with a guy you fancy that your body is not acking for his penis to be inside you. Your either afraid and need counselling or your a lesbian. You need to sort out this problem now as he obviously wants some action and its not fair to make him wait. he is 20 not 12.
2007-03-14 07:30:11 · answer #2 · answered by wonder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is too fast. youre only 20 and still a virgin, so dont act like you know what youre doing. tell him youre not this kind of girl before he gets the wrong impression that youre easy. the relationship should also be clear, commitment present.
come on, is him being angry more important than losing yourself to a person that is not worth it? if he really likes you, he should not just focus on your physical attributes but also you as yourself. if he's decent he will understand.
2007-03-14 07:28:45 · answer #3 · answered by rinkumi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kno exactly how u feel....
but u should neva eva feel pressured to have sex with someone...
i was a virgin till 19...wish i coulda kept it till later tho
i lost it to a guy after dating him for less than a month...and the relationship ended up only bein physical...and he still cheated in the end...coz he got bored afta a while
dun b pressured by anyone...u should only lose ur virginity when u feel truely ready both emotionally and physically...or else u'll regret...
first time is so important to a gal..and if its lost to the wrong person...it'll make ya depressed for a very long time...
and since u said...ur sure he's not a virgin...y would u wanna lose somefin so prescious to a guy like him...prob just take advantage of u then dump u for the next gal...and u'd feel u lost everyfin to him and he ends up betrayin u...
if he's the one for u...he'll wait for ya...if not then he ain't worth ur time and definately not ur virginity
2007-03-14 07:28:43 · answer #4 · answered by Forever happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 20...you have to decide if you are ready for sex...if you think you are and you feel comfortable with this guy, then ya go for it....but let him know that it is a new experience to you...he will understand, and it is possible that it may turn him on.
2007-03-14 07:30:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is most likely only physically attracted to you. Hold out for a long time to see how he reacts. If he reacts negatively early on, ditch him.
2007-03-14 07:28:09 · answer #6 · answered by Mista R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh for god sakes...you've know him 3 weeks and you would take the chance of losing your virginity to a stranger rather than risk the chance that he will "hate you".....if you are really 20, you need to wake up....keep your clothes on and wait till you are with someone you love who loves you back....good luck
2007-03-14 07:26:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him the truth. If he really wants to get to know you, he will understand. If he gets angry because of it and leaves, then gladly show him the door out.
2007-03-14 07:25:48 · answer #8 · answered by Konjo Nashi Pirate™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you want more than just sex... or maybe you should get the sex out of the way, then tell him to calm down...
2007-03-14 07:26:31 · answer #9 · answered by Forlorn Hope - returned 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must tell him what you feel honestly.
2007-03-14 07:29:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋