I am willing to pay for the food/catering for my daughters wedding shower to ensure all the female guests that are invited to the wedding are also extended an invite to the shower. My own wedding shower was done as one big event. The grooms family has already indicated an interest in hosting a shower. So my thought is to host a shower only for our side....or to offer to have a joint shower.......just interested in some thoughts on this. If not, do you offend the people who wont be invited to a shower? (I have only one sister in law out of town if she throws a shower or if the maid of honor throws a shower, I would assume they would invite only the people they know....). thanks ahead of time for sharing your ideas and experience....
2007-03-14 00:12:55 · 10 answers · asked by Sweetserenity 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My mother gave me a shower!! Get together with the maid of honor and do it together. Maybe the bridal party can't afford to do it. Who cares about tradition or ettiquette. If my mom would not have done it I may not have had one because my maid of honor was on a fixed budget. Mom did involve maid of honor however. They planned it together but mom paid.
2007-03-14 01:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by Ladybugs77 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your sister or the maid of honor threw a wedding shower they dont invite people they just know they invite everyone that the bride and groom knows. Throwing a shower you need to invite everyone that knows the bride or groom. Its a shower and the point of this shower is for the wedding couple to get gifts to help them out in their future, so more people coming the better the out come will be. You should have a joint wedding shower with grooms mother. It will be a good time for both sides of the family to get together and celerbrate this event. If the mother doesnt want to and wants to have her own, than just invite people from the brides side.
2007-03-14 00:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
For one thing, A mother should NEVER give a shower. It advocates greed. They should be given by friend or members in the wedding party, usually the maid of honor.
If you have any class at all, you would certainly invite the grooms family as they will become a part of your family too. Perhaps you can get together and give one big shower for everyone to get to know each other. Get in touch with the groom's mother and discuss this, before you separate a union that hasn't happened yet. This would be the best opportunity to get acquainted before the wedding with your new in-laws, with whom you may share grandchildren. Do yourself a favor and start off right .
2007-03-14 00:52:42 · answer #3 · answered by poopski 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me and my sister threw my aunts shower, so no not all mothers throw it :)
Oh and my Grandma is still alive hahah!
Anyway, I would all the grooms family and ask them if they would like to have a nice big joint shower or if they would rather have separate showers.
I mean, whats the worst that could come of that phone call?? hehehe
And you should invite family and close friends to the wedding shower. Wedding showers are very personal and supposed to be personal parties for certain guests. And the Wedding if for everyone.
People shouldn't be upset if they're not invited and if they are that's just silly because its not their wedding or function and its not about them.
I hope this helped and you sound like a great mother to be doing this for your child!
Just don't over stress yourself worrying about other people and what they will think.
=D
(except the bride)
He He He
2007-03-14 00:32:50 · answer #4 · answered by D.Allman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A mother of the bride should not host a shower. Period. Her sister can, her friends can, but she shouldn't. She should be an honored guest at all showers thrown for the soon to be bride, as should the grooms mother. Each person throwing a shower should get an invite list from bride to be.
2007-03-14 01:48:12 · answer #5 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it poor etiquette for the bride's family OR the groom's family to host the shower. It is supposed to be hosted by a non-relative. (The only exception is that family is allowed to host IF it is going to be a family-only shower).
Not all female guests need to be invited ot the shower. It's supposed to be only for the "nearest and dearest." People who are not that close to the bride will actually be GLAD to not be invited to the shower.
In fact, many brides do not even have showers at all. It is not mandatory.
Please consult a reliable etiquette book before proceeding with your plans.
2007-03-14 01:46:49 · answer #6 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ettiquette wise you arent to throw a shower for your daughter, you are soliciting gifts for her. Let the MOH handle the shower.
I was a MOH many times, I always speak to the bride for a guest list and make sure she includes everyone from each side. Not every woman who is invited to the wedding gets invited to the shower, it usually just the aunts, cousins, and close friends, normally they are about 30 women or around that number.
But no, you and the grooms mothers arent supposed to do anything for the shower except show up and agree on a date, the MOH and bridesmaids do the rest.
2007-03-14 00:40:55 · answer #7 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Isn't the cost of the bridal shower traditionally part of the bridal party's obligation? As far as the invitations, it should normally include anyone who is being invited to the wedding and that is for the bride to decide. For someone who lives a great distance away, the invitation is still sent, even if they are not expected to attend. Their RSVP will answer that question.
There are certainly enough other costs involved in a wedding that everyone will have their chance!!!
2007-03-14 00:26:38 · answer #8 · answered by NJGuy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally mom doesn't throw the party, but hey if you want to do it, call the maid of honor and you could coordinate. This way bridal party is involved and you can make sure others are invited...Or have your daughter give the maid of honor a guest list...I see nothing wrong with you hosting, but talk to your daughter first....
2007-03-14 01:35:02 · answer #9 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best to just have one shower - surely you or the future MIL has a home big enough to host 20 to 25 women!
2007-03-14 01:36:03 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋