my 10 yr old girl cant go a week without complaining that she feels sick, or a sore stomach or just dosent feel well, shes a stressy child and got this off me, ive told the doctor but he says its her nerves and some kids get like this, what do i do? is there anyone else whos been through this, how long does it last and what can i do, please help me, its stressin me out
2007-03-13 23:44:09 · 13 answers · asked by ROCKMUM LOVES BOWIE 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I don't have any magical solutions but I can sympathize. My sister is nearly 9 years younger than I am and throughout growing up (began around 8 years old for her) she often claimed she had a tummy ache and the like. It was a constant thing, but we figured out that is was when she was feeling stressed or anxious. She and I shared a room, so I would sometimes rub her tummy for her to help her get to sleep. The doctors said the same, that it was stress and that the tummy ache was a direct result of that. Short of medicating her, there wasn't much we could do except teach her how to handle the stress and anxiety she felt. Therapy helped, but an understanding family is the key. Above all, make sure it's nothing internal. It could also be dietary. Good luck to you!
2007-03-14 14:26:28 · answer #1 · answered by Andrea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My 13 year old daughter has had this same situation for years. she was diagnosed with "abdominal migraines". (rather than the pain in her head...she has it in her stomach). Two things worked WONDERS for her. One was the chiropractor. When she had a bad stomach ache the chiropractor would adjust her and she ALWAYS walked out of there feeling a million times better. Recently though, the comfort after an adjustment was just not lasting very long (less than a day - whereas before it could last many days..up to weeks) so we took her to a hypnotherapist. Again.. it worked wonders. She was going through an especially stressful time at school and was getting about 9 migrains a week! After one session with the hypnotherapist she went 4 days without a single one and the one she had on day 4 was much less severe.
That was a couple of months ago. Since then we went back to the hypnotherapist one time and she has had only very minor tummy aches since. (and only occasionally does she get them)
Another thing you want to look into is to see if certain foods trigger the tummy aches. Now that my daughter is finding some relief we can determine which foods make her feel worse. Keep a food journal and record how she feels.
Good luck. I know how hard this can be on you....
2007-03-14 00:30:22 · answer #2 · answered by longlegs102 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try to find relaxing things for her to do. Remind her everything is okay. Show her that you are doing fine too. Keep an eye on this though. It can lead to ulcers. You may have to push the doctors to check her out, but my son went through this at about 10 yo. If she's a stressy kid any way, finding ways to keep her calm and relaxed are a must. I'm a mom to 3.
2007-03-14 01:05:35 · answer #3 · answered by Melanie A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My younger sister had this same problem. (she is 7 y/o) The doctor said that is was growing pains. But just recently my mother put a restraining order on my sister's father because he had some problems...(long story..) Anyways... I thought it was a little bit of depression and she blamed it on herself that my parents split. BTW don't be so stressed out! Maybe she is even Lactose-intolerant (how ever u spell that..) Try to eliminate dairy products. See if that helps any... It is defiantly not nerves. Try a new doctor to get a second opinion
2007-03-14 03:32:08 · answer #4 · answered by Brown-Eyed-Beauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was this way as a child. It could be lactose intolerance or IBS: irritable bowel syndrome. If she feels sick after having a bowl of cereal every morning, I'd say lactose. If it's her stressing over things, I'd say IBS. They have prescription medication for IBS. Years ago I took a drug called Bentyl. I'm sure that there are more prescriptions on the market today.
Good luck. It's a rough time in your daughter's life. It took me a lot of years to get through it. Hang in there.
2007-03-14 04:18:55 · answer #5 · answered by meandthekids 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 10 year old is the same way - it's not normal to constantly be complaining about stomach and/or headaches. She might have an anxiety disorder. A counselor will be able to teach her how to deal with her anxiety in a healthy way - I'd look into it - that's what we did and it has really helped. There's nothing more sad than a child who is so anxious she can't enjoy being a child.
2007-03-14 03:19:13 · answer #6 · answered by Zabes 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that's a hard question to answer.
Has she really got a sore tummy?
Does she do this for attention or does she do this so that she doesn't want to go to school.
I think you need to first rule out the obvious and take her to a doctor or even a specialist to see if there is something going on in there. She may even need to be put under an anaesthetic so that they can put an endo tube down to see if there is anything abnormal.
You may also want to see what's happening around her, and her environment.
good luck
2007-03-14 00:35:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My younger sis had it when she was of this age ... its something related to food disorders mostly ... some people can't easily digest some food stuffs like other people do ... so those food stuff should be avoided for a while until her digestive system or immune system gets stronger ... but what food stuff is causing it is something difficult to know and you will have to try to know with your experience ... like keeping an eye on what she eats and when that stomach ache happens ! ... but it won't last long ! ... it will go away as she grows up ! ... Good Luck !
2007-03-13 23:50:55 · answer #8 · answered by Shashiz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through this myself at age 10 to 12. I internalized stress and had my first ulcer by 10. If your doc doesn't take it seriously, please consult another. A second opinion can save a lot of pain for your daughter. Other causes could be anxiety or lactose intolerance which shoes up around puberty- which hit girls younger these days.
Best of luck to you.
2007-03-14 00:27:36 · answer #9 · answered by jettyspagetti 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all, calm down. if you're stressed out you may be making her stress too. she needs you to be the strong one right now and help her through this. maybe something is bothering her at school or with her friends. you should talk to her about whatever is bothering her. whatever it may be, your bond with her is strong and can overcome any problem. sometimes kids this age just need someone to listen to them and not always be "the parent" when they come to you with a problem.
good luck. take a few deep breaths to destress.
2007-03-13 23:52:47 · answer #10 · answered by impossiblemama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋