i have a long distance gf but all she seems to talk about is getting a house and wanting me to support her and find the deposit, she hasnt really got a full time job yet is trying but has no regular income i love her but feel she is dragging me in to some place i dont wanna be, she seems to really love herself and thinks she deserves the best but even one of her friends broke up with her and i found out that one of the reasons is that uses men, should i escape whilst i have the chance???
2007-03-13 22:58:54 · 26 answers · asked by johnny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry cant spell ladies please help lol
2007-03-13 23:06:07 · update #1
i think she is that type who uses men. beware....
2007-03-13 23:04:42 · answer #1 · answered by faiza_t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel this is a hard question that someone can't really give you a definte answer, only advise. its up to you to decide. i agree with the other person, if your asking this in the first place, then it must show some doubt in your mind. I would be very cautious. As a couple in a relationship to buy a house and live together is just that a relationship. It needs to be together, you need to pay half or near that or at least show that both of you are making an acceptable contribution. I would take on board the warning coming from the old friend, but do be wary of personal issues that might just be between those two. Work out your own meaning of it. if she wants to live with you shes got to show the commitmment too, which means the financial commitment and not just to raising the money, financial stability also in terms of a full-time job. If you start to live together and she doesn't pay any bills because she don't have a job, thats not fair on you. I think it's selfish of her to ask you to support her. thats not what you ask of a life partner, that is a purely selfish act in my opinion. you should want to provide for each other if you have the means to do so. If she's physically and mentally capable of working and earning her own money then she should do so. it sounds to me like she wants a keeper rather then a partner. if you do decide to get a house with no contribuition from her, make sure it is in your name only and in the event of any split later keep proof that all bills were paid by you and you alone if that is the case...... tread with caution.
2007-03-13 23:14:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like shes taking you for a ride there , i had a long distance relation ship with my now husband ,im sorry but its not up to you to support her a deposit for a house is something use should be doing together . what you going to do say if you get the depoist she is going to leave you pay the morgage on your own and all the other bills then you will be in a place you dont wont to be , id get shut of her you can do better
2007-03-13 23:13:09 · answer #3 · answered by fafandloo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer and already know you should! Always move on from a person who "drags you down." That is your fight or flight mechanism! She probably thinks she deserves things and probably doesn't deserve them. She sounds self centered and egotistical. You will not be happy with a person who feels that you are only there to pamper them! Plus they get bored easy and move on only to leave a wake of heart break in their paths! Love yourself and tell her to go take a flying leap off a real high cliff! Good luck to you!
2007-03-13 23:05:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN. You will always be 2nd best in this relationship. Possessions are her love not you. If she wants them then she can work for them and once she knows the effort that goes into gaining these possessions she may gain some insight into what a relationship is about. But not now.
2007-03-13 23:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by ELIZABETH M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are already doubting the relationship, and all relationships need give and take fromeach side, you should not commit yourself to finding a house unless you can both finacially commit to it, why should you support her, she has to have some independance, i would not allow her to push you into a decision like that and either wait it out, tell her no not until she has some money also or run now before it's too late.
2007-03-13 23:11:50 · answer #6 · answered by kira s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have any doubts you need to talk to your gf. do it face to face other wise you could get the wrong end of the stick over the fone. i think she is unreasonable expecting you put up the bill for your home, she should definately be contributing. you need to find out what her intentions are, she might be different to what her friend thinks? at the end of the day you are not gonna find out untill you have a good talk with her.
2007-03-13 23:40:51 · answer #7 · answered by fluffyduck84 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you know the answer to this question, you seem like a really nice guy, if she is making you unhappy then maybe it isnt ment to be. You need to tell her how you feel and tell her you feel used. If she still carries on like this after you have spoken to her, then you know where you stand. Good luck x
2007-03-13 23:37:14 · answer #8 · answered by susie ooozzz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run like the wind. If shes talking about you supporting her and wants a house, she's like going to want to live off you.
2007-03-13 23:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by Eden 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 02:27:16 · answer #10 · answered by holtzer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut her loose, she's just going to keep you while you let her use you, then move off if you get 'difficult' in her eyes. Which you will, otherwise she's treat you like an idiot, yes sir, no sir, three bags full sir, do you really want to be the yes sir person? Me thinks nooooooooooo
2007-03-13 23:10:05 · answer #11 · answered by fancypants 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋