I have been through alot of Relationships and I know how the whole dating things works, thats not my problem tho. About 2 years ago I was with this guy for about a year. I loved him, well to make a long story short we broke up. I know for a fact he loved me, we were serious. Really really serious. After that i cant keep a guy for no more then a couple of months because I can't forget about him. I cant be happy with myself and its stupid. I just want to finally get over him. Sometimes i feel im over him but I just break down and realize i still love him. I always compare him to all my boyfriends and of course they dont even compare to him. Im sick of being tired. Does anyone know anything that will help me. I need to move on and i just cant. I have already tired to contact him but it never goes the way i want it to. I want to just give up and see that i'll never have anything again. I was so happy with him.
Sad in Pass Christian, MS
Steven
2007-03-13 22:54:09 · 11 answers · asked by Steven 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are u gay?
I think u should give up on him, unless u really really really love him, then never give up. In any case life was ok without him before u met him and it will b ok without him now, it just takes time, in the meantime stay busy with friends and family.
2007-03-13 22:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
everything happens for a reason, of that much i'm sure. So you two were together, and for whatever reasons, at the time, it just wasnt right, you tried, many times, over a period of time to move on, but you havent, Accept that you havent, you havent for a reason. Its been a tough time with no end in sight. Time to take one final plunge. Write to him. Explaining everything. All of it. This way, you have the time and chance to explain everything you want to say, and he has the the time to understand and digest everything you have said, and has time to make an informed decision. without either of you going through this face to face. you have to prepare yourself that he may have moved on, but he may too be feeling all the things that you are too, just because it wasnt right at the time before does not mean it isnt now, perhaps you both had to go through this to realize. Its worth a shot, you have nothing more to loose and at least this way you will have a difinitive answer to draw from and work on, I wish you all the luck in the world
2007-03-13 23:03:52 · answer #2 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to still be in love with someone. It hurts even worse when you tried to get over him, ur depressed and he's all you think about. Try this, call him on the phone get him as annoyed as you can and eventually he'll show you the side he was hiding, the side you don't like. You'll realize that he wasn't what you thought and you'll wonder why you ever liked him. If you don't think he wants to get back together then you gotta stop tryin or he'll think ur obssessed with him, and he'll try to avoid you . Be careful with how you treat him you don't want to leave a broken heart for both of you. Don't worry ask if you guys can still be friends, start back at the beggining!
2007-03-13 23:05:28 · answer #3 · answered by lilly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you just don't have to compare people if you have to move on. Well you were happy with him but if you are trying to compare every one with him, you will never get over this. Every one is different and the quality some times we have is incomparable. So you should judge every person you meet in his regard not with your ex.
Therefore try this and then it will help you to move on.
Good Luck!!
2007-03-13 23:15:32 · answer #4 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the most important part that you left out is the reason that you to broke up..you can't force ur heart to forget someone you love.. if i was in ur shoes.. i would ask that person how he feels about me.. if that person still has feelings over me...Your heart is not satisfied of what you have right now and if you want to satisfy it you should do what it says, but i tell you.. your heart is not always right..just remember to use your brain.. try to make your heart and brain to agree on the same choice and once that happen weather you mess up or not, you wont regret it.. i can't tell you what to do .. but try to make a smart choice, a choice that satifies you at the same time..
pce>>>
2007-03-13 23:08:39 · answer #5 · answered by mike s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Steven, please give up on him as he doesn't want what you want. Maybe if he sees you aren't so needy he will come back. I know its terrible to want someone that doesn't want you, but its called LIFE. Do the best you can, once you stop thinking of him constantly it will get easier. Stay too yourself for awhile , don't think another relationship is going to help, it will but not right now, go slow, think of yourself, get to a gym, work out make yourself irresistible . who knows one day he may be begging to have you back. good luck my friend, don't be down, go forward.
2007-03-13 23:11:25 · answer #6 · answered by brown eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it goes like this...
think of the main reason of your break up with your ex boyfriend... then think and think... askes yourself this... is it me or is he the one who end our relationship?.... then.. if you finally got an answer to yourself relax your self and clear your mind about him... everything between the two of you and start your life again without him.. it really takes a lot of effort and time to forget your past it is not a bubble that would pop for sometime.. give your self time and for the meantime busy yourself on some activities that would help you to forget him...
2007-03-13 23:23:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey you are in love and i know its difficult to get out of that feeling but if you dont want to move on i think you dont want to leave your love
try to give your old relationship one chance and you said both of you were serious then why not give it a second chance
i think you both will be happy together
think once more
good luck
2007-03-13 23:02:56 · answer #8 · answered by catrina a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let the situation affect you, quit what you're doing right now and see where you went wrong, correct it and move on with your life
2007-03-13 23:03:38 · answer #9 · answered by yurrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u should,
just not get involved in any relationships yet,
unitl u fully get over him, and trust me with time u will,
2007-03-13 23:04:16 · answer #10 · answered by emzisebastain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋