He always acts like he never has time for me, & I'm in a time of crisis right now, & he still acts like he can't be supportive of just taking the time to hear me vent out my problems. I don't know. I think I'm bringing too much drama into his life, in which that's not my intention. With the mental problems I'm going through, I just need to be alone right now, but how do I tell him this? He's under the impression that our relationship is perfect, but he hardly talks to me, & I only get to see him 2X/month. I feel like I have too many problems in my life to be having a boyfriend. He's in college, & I'm a college grad. I'm suffering BIG depression, & I feel so worthless that I feel like I don't even deserve a boyfriend. He's a good guy & all, but should I just break up with him & stay friends with him?
2007-03-13 22:50:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well i think u need to really find time n talk with him.even if he resist he cannot make time for u plead with him that it is important to come.convience him to see u n sit him down to talk about ur relationship.communication is the key to a succefully relationship.during the talks examine his reactions towards u.if he still continue to that behaviour please advice yourself n give a break for a while.i think it will work this time.
good luck
2007-03-13 23:14:42 · answer #1 · answered by Annies 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to take some time to yourself (you have plenty of time if you only see him twice a month) and get your sh** together. If you're really feeling depressed, you should see a therapist. Therapists are there to help you. It doesn't mean you are crazy and therapy is very accepted nowadays. As for venting; it's ok to tell your boyfriend some of the problems you've been having, but just discuss them and maybe ask for suggestions. NEVER vent to someone you care about. It will just sound like you're an angry person and make him feel like nothing more than a wall since he doesn't get to talk. I'm sure that if you just take a deep breath and try to relax, smile, and have some fun, that you'll end up feeling a lot better. Being alone when you're depressed only makes you dwell on how depressed you are.
2007-03-14 06:10:56 · answer #2 · answered by mac 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say he acts like he has no time for u but at the same time u say u want to be alone?
Tell him you want to take a break for a while and come back later and see what happens because u need to solve ur problems. Tell him u would like his help but u feel like he is not there for u and that therefore he is just another mental drain in ur life because if he ain't helping he is part of the problem.
2007-03-14 05:55:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
focus on your needs first... take care of yourself first... you need not bother him with any problem as he seems to not respond to you in a kind and loving matter. let the relationship disintigrate on it's own... u could always send him a not and say it's over... that is always an option... but sounds like you are vunerable... so if he does call, just say u need to take care of personel business. find a friend or family member u can trust, just to talk things over... you don't necessarily need to see a therapist but, since u're in school just contact a counselor... it's normally free if i remember my college days.... take care and i hope you get better soon...
2007-03-14 05:58:57 · answer #4 · answered by ogg08 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, if u feel everything that uve written down here, then i think u should break up with him,
and stay friends,
then maybe if u want later u can try going out again,
2007-03-14 05:56:04 · answer #5 · answered by emzisebastain 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he is like that then i think you should leave it for a little while and then if he is still like yhat then yes you should kk x
2007-03-14 05:55:25 · answer #6 · answered by rosie p 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no no u don,t leave .u stay with him.
2007-03-14 05:59:53 · answer #7 · answered by jhalak r 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you shud leave him.
2007-03-14 06:03:23 · answer #8 · answered by jasmine 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋