My sister and I live in our deceased grandparents house, however before they passed my mother somehow got the house in her name. So she lets us live there rent free. The only problem is, she demands she has an extra key and shows up at any given time. She stays for 2 or 3 wks, when she only lives 20 minutes away. When she's there she brings my younger brothers (9 & 11) which do not mind, and they leave food and drinks all over, they never clean up after themselves. Then she gets upset b/c her parents house is 'filthy dirty'. My sister and I are in our mid twenties, we pay all the bills including house insurance. Now she is thinking about turning the family room into her own personal bedroom! Could someone give me some good advice.
2007-03-13 22:42:21 · 5 answers · asked by DiG iT 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The house is your mother's house now... she can do what she wants with it... move in.. kick you out... sell it.. turn it into a bordello. Inheritances as large as real estate don't normally 'skip' a generation, so I don't think your mother pulled a trick to get it in her name!
I'd say the 'live rent free' deal is probably temporary while she decides exactly what she wants to do with the house. Sounds to me what she decided to do is move in! Don't expect the free rent to continue forever either.
You're young adults... if you don't like what your mother is doing, spread your wings and fly.. time to have a new home! And pay ALL the bills not just the insurance :)
2007-03-13 23:33:43 · answer #1 · answered by endorable 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sure...but you'll have to have a poker face to pull it off. Tell her you two have found jobs in New York and you'll be moving at the end of the month. Thank her for letting you use her parents house as a base to start your careers and get you educations; and let her know that you wouldn't have decided to move if she hadn't backed you into a corner, but for your own sanity, you no longer have any choice. If she gets nervous and starts asking questions to the effect of how to get you to stay, have a laundry list of things she'll have to agree to that are outlandish; then whittle the list down to the major issues you have with her behavior and get what you came for. Win-win...the end!
2007-03-14 05:51:46 · answer #2 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhh yeah... was the house left in the will to you and your sister? if it was get her name off of it and tell her she has to call first and shes welcome whenever she wants but to atleast call and let you know since she is your mom...its not right to just come and go like that and it isnt fair to you and your sister. you really need to sit and talk to her.
2007-03-14 06:38:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You & your sister need to move out together & get an apt & be out of your mothers control.
2007-03-14 05:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was u i would tell her i how i feel..........................i wouldnt b disrespectful about it............trust me it does no good 2 hold it all n........but jus let her know how u feel...................jus sit down and talk 2 her.
2007-03-14 09:06:04 · answer #5 · answered by ~*~ Princess Jasmine ~*~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋