Then she died suddenly and I was shocked. I felt ashamed later that I let the years go by and didnt try and make amends. I think about his all the time and the guilt is horrible. Anyone have any words of advice?
2007-03-13 22:10:01 · 8 answers · asked by coolred38 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You should learn to forgive yourself and know that she might have forgiven you but was afraid that you wouldnt forgive her. Time passes by so fast and she might have kept puting off that call to you and weeks turned into years. Just forgive yourself and know that she is at peace now so you should live at peace. Dont blame yourself, life happens but forgiveness always allows time to heal the wound.
2007-03-13 22:14:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ii have a sister and a brother, and this thing you are talking about happened to my mother and her brother 20 years ago.
It makes you feel bad forever, I know, but you have to think that maybe this experience can help you avoid other mistakes in your life. It was not your fault. It happens and you couldn't predict it would go that way!
I always have fights with my brothers but I am so afraid something bad may happen like you said, that I always try to find a way to get in touch as soon as possible.
You just try to focus on the fact that if you feel like this it's because you really loved her. I'm sure she knew that. Think about the good days, the good things you did together. The good times are to remember as much as possible. I'm sure there were. I'm sure that at the end she thought about the good ones mostly.
Everything happens for some reason, I believe.
Love people, as much as you can, cause we are not forever here. This is a good way to make amends! :-)
2007-03-13 22:19:56 · answer #2 · answered by Silvia N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you should pray more often about it. The fact of the matter is when someone passes or if you passed do you think you would be worried about a fight you had with your sibling as opposed to how much you really loved them. Sounds unusual to switch positions with a person who has passed. But what would you keep in your heart or you soul about your sister if you had passed... I don't know you but I think it would be the times you spent with each other growing up the time she stole the candy and took the spanking for you... or said you did it lol.. the times you shared warmly as sister and brother not the things that in the scheme of things don't even matter. Its your love for one another. Time to let go of silly things because no matter why you got into the fight in the scheme of things it doesn't matter. Hold on to what does. I recommend praying strongly. I have lost people in my life and I would not be able to move at all or into anything positive with out God.
2007-03-13 22:24:50 · answer #3 · answered by J G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a lousy mess. Do yourself a favor, get a bit of professional help. This isn't the place, as we aren't professionals and don't know enough of the details of the original argument. That argument will play in who/and how forgiveness is going to be dished out. Since you say the guilt is horrible, you need someone to help lead you through a healing process.
Please believe I know of what I speak.
2007-03-13 22:28:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
eih it's really hard to be in your situation..first since you can't talk to her in person why don't you ask for forgiveness to her through a prayer and tell her everything you wasn't able to tell her..then next learn to forgive yourself and accept that she's gone and you can't take back anything you've done..just learn to accept it..step by step then continue communicating with the family she have left..in this way it's like your with her and you can do the things you wish to do for her..forgive yourself and forgive your sister then be a part of her family..then i think you also need a spiritual guidance..so to your councellor and be treated spiritually..it would help..
2007-03-13 22:58:19 · answer #5 · answered by queen_maan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pray for her soul and maybe ask for forgiveness through God,
sometimes we feel sorry for not telling people what we really feel but she is gone we cannot do anything about it but u u r still alive make ur lyf better and learn from ur mistakes by dat way u can make u r sis happy bec she opened ur eyes to such truth that maybe it wont hurt to fogive and forget while d person u do u wrong r still alive and around
2007-03-13 22:16:14 · answer #6 · answered by Thenaj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tht's sad, you can only pray for her now, there is no point in feeing guilty........
2007-03-13 22:21:46 · answer #7 · answered by faiza_t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to forgive yourself...
2007-03-13 22:21:38 · answer #8 · answered by gadgetki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋