I am a mom of a two year old and I have her in gymnastics and have tried joining a playgroup so she can be around other kids, but I am finding it hard to make friends with some of the other moms. I feel that at times I am back in high school with the amount of snobs I am running across. I am trying to be a little more out going at the park, library, etc and most of the moms are snobs. How have other moms dealt with the moms who believe they are better than everyone else? Some moms are great I have to admit.
2007-03-13 21:33:10 · 9 answers · asked by alwaysthebestanswer 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
If some mom's are gr8, then don't worry about the snobby ones! And, yes........ it is very much like high school again!
2007-03-13 21:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I've had the same issue, it's really pathetic. I would find a few moms who are willing to let their guard down and deal with them only. A small group of authentic people are better than dealing with the entire bunch of women who are probably unhappy at home.
I tell my children that when you're young you have a basket full of people whom your associate with that you might call friend, but as you get older you will be able to count on one hand those who are genuine and whom you can call true friends.
I dealt with it by just surrounding myself with the moms who wanted to connect, and we started our own playgroup and did a lot of activities with our children together. You could just see the snobby moms jealousy of our outings.
2007-03-14 07:01:49 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel!! It is just like going back to school, but as you have already noticed they are not all like that! I found that my daughter made friends with some of the other kids and then got invited to their parties which made it easier to get to know the other mums. However I have as little interest in being friends with the stuck up ones as they have in getting to know me and thats just fine, i have met some nice people and I always make sure i say hello to anyone thats new in the playground. Just remember it takes time to get to know people and the ones who seem to think they are better than you are probably really insecure underneath it all.Good luck!
2007-03-14 07:43:52 · answer #3 · answered by jo h 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the world of have and have nots.
Just ignore the snobs. It could be they are actually as "shy" as you or have "formed" their circle. Just be yourself and if they are mean you don't want to be friends with them.
You will find your place in pre school, and as they get in to real school. I have made some life long friends with all 3 of my kids and just ignore the (PITA's) - ;O)
It's hard to make friends in the early years.. perhaps have people you like over for a little play date/coffee... or something they will [or should] return the favor.
2007-03-14 07:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by kelly e 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems as if almost all people are becoming snobs these days. I'm not a mom, but I would think you could find at least one mom somewhere that's okay, and just try getting to know her and her friends.
2007-03-14 04:37:17 · answer #5 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm a tattoo'd, pierced 25 year old mom who always wears black lol... I know what you mean about snobby moms. I swore to my husband that I would NEVER become one of those velour jogging suit wearing moms who prance around walmart with their hair and makeup done and their little girls in dresses. lol.
I would suggest finding moms' your own age, especially if you're a younger parent. And, the way I deal with those snobby women is to just be myself. Dont let them get to you. It's a good example for your child to carry on into her highschool years! :)
2007-03-14 10:56:13 · answer #6 · answered by * 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that you are not confusing shyness with snobbery first. I find it hard to make friends as well. I just don't worry about it, it is better to have a small group of good friends than an army of associates. Just let your child play, be friendly and enjoy your day.
2007-03-14 07:47:31 · answer #7 · answered by peach 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the harder you try the farther they will run to get their latte.i always say and do something that these so called snobs are doing enjoy the day and have fun and wait you will see if you try.
2007-03-14 04:43:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about them at all. Focus on yourself and your child, nothing and no one should make you feel horrible, alot of people in this world are ignorant and selfish.
2007-03-14 05:20:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋