What are some pros and cons about having children early?

Question

I have known my husband for almost four years and we think we are ready to start a family. I am mature for 21 and my husband is ultra mature for 26 and we are sure we will be good parents.

Some helpful answers from outside sources is appreciated. Thank you :)

Answer 1

By the time I was able to start a career, my kids were old enough and in school, which helped me to become successful. Eventually after gaining the experience I needed, I then started working from home and had my own business. I had two children at age 19 and 20 and to me it was a good time. I had time to spend with them when they were really young as I didn't go back to work until I was 25 years old. I do, though, have a very, very supportive husband who is four years older than me. That made a huge difference. A lot of my friends had children and were single parents. I do not think they feel the same way as I do.

But in the end, its up to you what you want to do. Whatever you do is the right thing.

Answer 2

Pros.....the joy you feel when you see their face and smile because it is you that they see!
....even when they get older and think you are nerdy but they still come to you for comfort!
....you will never truly remember what life meant to you before they came along...that one I promise!
...too many pros to list!
Cons.......your sacrifices are not recognized fully
.....your marriage will change to some degree..
I think that kids are great. I have a 13 g, 12 g, 5 g and 11stepson. The pros are awesome and mighty....and the cons..well they change often...no cons remains for too long. Before you and your hubby go for it...sit down and talk a lot about the expected roles that you two will own. Make sure you are both in the same mind frame and make sure that you are truly ready.If you realize you don't agree on something..find a compromise or agree to DISagree. Also...no matter how ready you think you are....no one, no matter what age or financial status is 100% ready.

Answer 3

I think the benefits to young parenting are many.
# Firstly your body should be able to cope better with pregnancy and go back to normal quicker.
# Your not set in your ways where a child will ruin your schedule/routine, your better able to cope with life being all about someone else rather than you.
# Its easier to stay up all night with a hungry, sick baby.
# You have more energy to chase after your child.
# You remember what childhood is like so are better able to understand your child.
# If you have all your children young, you are still able to go out and make a career for yourself after your child is in school. As you are still young enough to do it.
# You have a really close bond with your child as you are better able to understand them, and get to be the cool parents when they are at shcool.

The cons:
# You have to adjust to the fact you cant go out and party all the time (if that is what you are into)
# Its not all about you anymore
# There is a stigma attached to young parents
# You miss the social life you had before you had kids
# All you talk about is poo,spew,snot & how cute your baby is
# Your carefree attitude diappears as all you are concerned about is the health and welfare of your child, so you spend alot of time worrying over anything & everything.

I personally think there are many good reasons to have children young. That is actually the way our bodies are built. Why do you think it gets harder to fall pregnant and have succesful pregnancies the older you are.
(I had my first at 19 and second at 21)

But in the end its not about pro's and con's its about whether YOU are ready to have children, if you want them, if you are ready to devote the rest of your life to someone else and if its the right time for you.

Answer 4

im 21 and my husband is 23 and i am pregnant with our first child and a lot of people have told me im at a good age to have children due to the fact its easier when your younger during a pregnancy cause your body can handle more and you get tired as you get older. so i think thats a pro :) not to mention i try to look at it as i'll hopfully have more years with my children than what i would if i was 30-35 when i started having children... i dunno i guess its personal opinion... but i dont really know many cons... maybe that it might be a bit more of a struggle to buy a home if you dont already own one.. thats the thing i always worry about

Answer 5

I didn't realize that there actually was anything good about it. Trustme when I say, wait, enjoy a couple of more years being married first, because once you've got a kid, you can never go back to being just you two.