What are some pros and cons about having children early?

Question

I have known my husband for almost four years and we think we are ready to start a family. I am mature for 21 and my husband is ultra mature for 26 and we are sure we will be good parents.

Some helpful answers from outside sources is appreciated. Thank you :)

Answer 1

If you both feel you are ready and want children then go for it.

The pros are that you are getting a good start on it. You'll be that much younger when they move out (it sounds crass but it is something to consider!). You will be able to keep up with them as both you and they grow. You might even get to be the "cool" parent. The other kids will have moms older than you. You'll be able to relate more. If you want more than one or two children you won't have a time limit. Like it or not we have a limited amount of eggs and the ones we get to use in our thirties aren't the healthiest. If you start having children now you won't have to rush right into your second and third child to get it all done in time.

Cons: you are still very young, both of you. You're still learning so much about yourselves and the world. You're still fresh to the whole world on your own. Even if you left home at 16 you still have lived most of your life under someone else's care. You may still need time to live on your own before becoming responsible for another.

To be honest I don't ever want to have kids. I'm 31 and have known that since I was 12. I worry about people who jump into having kids too soon. I worry about their kids.

The fact that you are asking, I think, shows maturity. You've been married for 4 years. If you have concerns about your marriage I'd say deal with that before getting pregnant. If not then it does seem you both might be ready.

Before our generation you would not even consider asking this question. Though I think it is good that we have the opportunity, in social terms, to wait for marriage and children I do not think it's wrong for people to get married and have children "early" so long as they take the time to consider all aspects.

If, again, you are both ready then why he heck not?

Answer 2

well if you were to have them at a younger age then the health risks would be lower. As long as you both think that your ready and you are financially stable then i would say go for it.