its just that i can see my brother has been sad for the past few years. since he broke up with his 1st girlfriend.he was 21 that time and currently 26. he never got a girlfriend after his 1st one. he's very smart, goodlooking ( althought a bit chubby but not obvious), intellectual. some girls would show her some hints that they like him but he just wont do anything. he thinks that these girls are jst being nice...i wanna take him to go clubbing, bar hopping. and more but he doesnt want to. he's too serious about his career, forgeting his social and love life. and is really being left oout.most of his fellas are either newly weds or now a dad. what should i do to help him? i have tried talking to him a thousand times but he wont listen.please. also,he always chooses the wrong one, he likes this girls ryt now hus just totally after his money. how would i make him realize that? help please
2007-03-13 20:28:41 · 9 answers · asked by chesca d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ches,
I know you mean well, and I think it's sweet of you to want to help your brother out.
That said, all the clubbing and partying in the world is not going to make him want to get in circulation...he's going to have to want to do that. That his peers are married and/or are fathers is irrelevant...that should not be a factor in deciding to pursue relationships.
Perhaps he believes that 'looking' for it isn't the way. I, and a lot of people honestly believe that the right person comes along when you're not looking at all.
He ain't gonna die because he isn't seeing anybody...he'll settle down when he's ready to. :)
2007-03-13 20:40:00 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfsburgh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes gunna have to do it and learn it in his own time, some people are hardheaded (dont take offense to that) but its how people are. I always picked the wrong girls too, i actually went flat broke when a girl ran off with my credit card, and i had dated her a freakn year, after that i just learned. the worst place to find bad girls are in bars and clubs, theres ALOT of hos there, not all of them are, but he would probably have better luck just meeting a cutie at his work or in a coffee shop, best places to find good girls.
2007-03-14 03:34:36 · answer #2 · answered by Dan. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your brother has learned the hard way that nice guys finish last. A nice guy has 3 choices in relationships;
1) Be with a mean, nasty, and/or opportunistic psycho who will treat him horribly.
2) Learn to act like a jerk to get women to treat him right. Not appealing, as he'll have to pretend to be what he is not, and know that those women don't even want to know him--they only like him for his jerky behavior.
3) Be alone.
It sounds like he went with number 3, but doesn't like it.
Sorry, but that's life. I am in the same boat.
2007-03-14 03:41:06 · answer #3 · answered by fromorto12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As wonderful as your intentions are, it may be wise for you to back off. If he's still so hung up on his first girl after FIVE YEARS of them being broken up, it doesn't seem to me like taking him clubbing for any random piece of @ss would be the best solution. For whatever reason he thinks that SHE was The One. He probably thinks if he can't have her, there's no reason to look again. If he needs to indulge in his career in order to quell the pain, perhaps you should just let him be.
I wish I could be more constructive than this, but that's just what I think.
2007-03-14 03:35:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just doesn't want to date. Maybe he's gay. Maybe he's depressed? I haven't married again and people think it's not normal. Who's to say we have to be w/ someone to enjoy life? Unless you think he's depressed leave him alone. You can't make him date just because it would make you happy.
2007-03-14 03:32:45 · answer #5 · answered by uknowme 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sorry to hear that.I think you was worried too much about your brother, he just get back to his social life,let him play for a lillte it ,he will know when he stop.good luck.............
2007-03-14 03:45:14 · answer #6 · answered by lovely f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother has his own life. maybe you can advice him anytime but don't you remember that he is too old.......... i think he can understand you but you must also understand that he has own life................ the things you can only do is advice him and prayer for him
2007-03-14 03:39:08 · answer #7 · answered by isha 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
introduce him to a good woman
2007-03-14 03:32:00 · answer #8 · answered by dickdamick 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you sholud be straight up and take him out..............or get him drunk at the crib and make him talk!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-14 03:35:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋