This is a long story,but I'm going to try to make it short as possible.So, here it goes... In Sep 04" I met this guy and it seemed as though we really did click.However,we both had significant others at the time so we never took things"all the way"...a couple of months later we were both single. We ended up "hooking up" and seen eachother for about five months.I got pregnant about two months after seeing him.His ex came back to him and I was of course then dumped.I didn't hear from him again until our son was about four months old.Which would have been in March 06" , we've talked everyday since then , for hours. He ended up marrying the gf and having a child w/her.In Aug we started seeing eachother again and it's still continuing...he says he loves her but he wont give up the relationship/friendship with me, even though she has known and threatened to leave him over him talking with me. I'm caught up in this and would really like an outsiders advice/opinion.Thanks
2007-03-13 20:28:03 · 11 answers · asked by suffer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you should forget about him and move on. let him pay for his child if he cares so much and stop helping him cheat on his wife. he chose her over you when ou were pregnant and then disappeared and got married to her? why are you even asking this question today? you already know the answer. this man is a loser and wants it all without paying for any of it. get out of the mess once nad for all! pray for teh strength to commit to leaving his sorry behind!
2007-03-21 17:22:01 · answer #1 · answered by shopsummor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cares because he has a child with you, and i bet youre still friends somehow. but he has said it clearly that you could not misunderstand - he loves his wife. the relationship between the 2 of you must_exclude_intimate relation. is he paying child support? that is SO important you know.
what do you mean by "and I was of course then dumped"? He had a child with you and he still chose the other woman, therefore you were never his priority. be strong and make a better life for yourself and your child. try to be the best mother you could be, the boy needs all the love and guidance he could get from you, since his father wont stick around.
it must be hard to give up on a guy you love, but do it for the sake of yourself and the boy. his legal family will never appreciate you being a part of their lives. its true that you dont need to see each other in a regular basis, sooner or later he will realize that he cant risk losing his family because of you.
2007-03-13 22:58:24 · answer #2 · answered by rinkumi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't trust him. I think he's just playing you. You got pregnant & he left you. If he really loved & cared about you then he wouldn't leave you for another woman. Especially if you're pregnant. I don't think you should give him anymore chances. He has a wife and a kid too. You'll find someone better & someone that won't leave you in your time of need like he did.
2007-03-21 20:18:54 · answer #3 · answered by _____ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right about now .... from what your stating ...your playing the game yourself ... you know that he's married ... and the crazy thing about it is you say your caught up in it ....when you already knew ... so >>>what do you really want advise/opinion on?
is he playing you? or are you playing you? wanting something/someone that is already taken ..... is having a so-called relationship better than nothing...you need to question yourself do you want to be #1 or #2 .... cause right about now your standing in the #2 spot and not getting anywhere ...wouldn't you want to have someone thats yours and not someone elses ..those are the questions you need to ask yourself....then when you answer those questions it won't matter if he cares or not ... you need to start thinking about you and yours(son).
2007-03-13 20:54:20 · answer #4 · answered by common sense 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think both you and the wife should dump him then get together once a week and bash him so that you both feel better.What a frigging jerk. I'm not even involved in the sitch and I'm mad
2007-03-21 10:33:40 · answer #5 · answered by tarakootenay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 08:28:40 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety i would try to back out of this alittle at a time you don't need all this stress in your live i mean just start talking to him less ans less or tell him its you or her one way or another he can't have his WHOLE cake and eat it i mean guys like to try and keep things going all the time so i would forget about him or tell him the way its going to be!!! one way or another good luck!!!
2007-03-21 20:22:51 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgirl4ever8889 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He gets to have sex with 2 women regularly
You need to cut him off
2007-03-21 18:49:02 · answer #8 · answered by eddie9551 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave that loser...u'll not regret yr decision. he's just another man that disrespect women
2007-03-21 19:09:22 · answer #9 · answered by mizz_car 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not trustworthy. he's playing both of you and the only contact you should have with him should be about your son only.
2007-03-13 20:39:49 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋