We had been together for 6 yrs but broke up last Oct becos of a 3rd party. He is now with her. Since then he had constantly tell me he still loves me and misses me. But when I checked his email, i realised he & that girl send alot of mushy emails to each other. I feel very hurt because I still love him. It had been 5 mths since we broke up. Now I'm in oversea due to work commitments and will be back in July. When I asked him if he would like to give our r/ship another chance again.. he said yes. He tells me he will wait for me to go back. But he is still with that girl and they're really close. I love him and many times I wan to let go of this r/ship but he will cry badly.. what does he want? When I asked him who he loves.. he said he don't know.. Can guys out there please advise? I really don't want to lose him... i love him very much..
2007-03-13 20:25:24 · 10 answers · asked by sillygal811610 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you guys think me & my ex can still be together? I mean it'll be another few mths b4 i go back.. by then he & that girl had been together for quite long already.. will he still come back to me? What should I do now to make sure that he don't forget me? I'm really scare he'll no longer love me when i'm back because that girl had replaced my place in his heart... what should I do?
2007-03-13 20:34:32 · update #1
I love him very much.. it's only after we broke up then I realised how much I love him.. I really want to try things out with him again.. for the last time...
2007-03-13 20:38:29 · update #2
i find it hard to let go of this r/ship. Probably it's because we had been together for 5 long years.. we're more than lovers.. we're best buddies, soulmates & family.. everytime i think of letting go, my heart hurts badly. This r/ship is driving me nuts and I'm in a foreign land which makes things alot more worse.. this morning he just emailed me and said he missed me alot and ask me to call him when I'm free. yet when I checked his "sent emails" in his another mailbox, he told his girl that he never reply to my emails. I really don't know what I should do.. i want to hate him, probably that will make mi give up on him. but whenever I think back on the promises he gave me, I give in again and is contented beiing his "spare"...
2007-03-13 20:45:37 · update #3
I'm not sure. I think he's confused. However, he shouldn't leave you for other girl. I mean, why would he do that if he loves you? He's not being sincere. I'm not saying that he's a cheater or anything, cuz I don't know him. But maybe you should tell him to be more firm about his dicision. He already know that you love him. But yet, he has two girls to choose from. Give him time to think about it, and let him tell you his decision when he's done thinking about it. Be ready for whatever answers that he will give. If he picks you, then, good for both of you. If not, then think positively. There should be other guy who is better than him. It's just a matter of time. If you can't forget him, just keep yourself busy. You'll get over it sooner or later.
Maybe you should just start to believe in fate. No matter how much you love a guy, if you're not destined to be with him, you'll still have to let him go. But there's always someone made for you. You don't have to go and look for him. Because eventually, he will come to you.
2007-03-13 20:37:58 · answer #1 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your situation kinda sucks.
I'm a guy, and I love it when women give me alot of attention..
Maybe this is the game he's playing right now, he's with this other chic and keeps coming back to you whining that he wants to work things out and what not..This will continue going on if you don't make things very clear for him and let him know what's up.
Tell him you want to work things out but if he doesn't give you some attention and treats you with respect by not talking to this other woman then you're gonna have to cut him lose. Plain and simple..
Try ignoring him for a few weeks and see if that helps him realize the value you have..also it'll be good for you to clear your mind and stop stressing over this dude.
2007-03-13 22:20:58 · answer #2 · answered by HaLF_BaKeD123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop being so concerned about what he wants and how he feels and pay attention to ur own needs.......he is confused and if he has been with u for 5 years whats there to be confused about. He knows you, knows what u want, who u r, what u like, i mean the confusion only comes in becuz he wants to be with the girl now and not you but he wants to keep you around incase it doesnt work with her. Sometimes men ar jus babies i say cut ur loses if u really want him..............cut him off and see if comes back with a more sound and secure mind if he dont then he gonna take u through hell for the next 6 years trying to find out what he wont and he still might come to the conclusion that is not you. If he is not givin u what u need find someone who will dont waste ur life on confusion.
2007-03-13 20:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by exceptionallyexceptional 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is not worth ur love!! dump him but stay friends..if he loves u then its ought to be u only.not like being w/ someone else & tells otherwise. i had my ex who still says he misses & loves me (5 years after since he married another gurl) but why did he ever marry someone else in the 1st place, ryt? i keep the communication open as friend & as an ex..but thats all. Maybe am too happy to hear how miserable he is now (for being with someone & claims loving me..lol!) please, dont trap urself into a relationship that is half-half. u'l end up being hurt unless he makes up himself but just the same he will be carrying an excess baggage bcoz it looks like he wants two birds in one shot. (immature & selfish guys)
2007-03-13 20:37:00 · answer #4 · answered by jables 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he left you for another girl trust me he doesnt love you he might ay he does but that is just to keep you hanging for wen he wants you for wateva reason trust me my ex did this to me and dont be silly enough to let him go backwards and forwards you dont dserve this and niether does this "third party". My ex cried to and i understand how you could believe him through his tears but if he is with her than he cant possibly love you. I personally would make this girl aware of the lies he is telling you both
2007-03-13 20:34:36 · answer #5 · answered by Kimberly S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
K, really you have to think of yourself first in this situation. If it's going to cause you stress, don't bother with how he will feel. Also, provide him with an ultimatium, me or her. If he can't decide it means he's not picked you (even if he doesn't pick her). Find another nice guy and write him off. It's not worth it.
2007-03-13 20:31:14 · answer #6 · answered by Kalludge Stoodunt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
READING THAT ACTUALLY MADE ME CRY :( LET ME JUST TELL U, THINGS WILL DEF GET BETTER. BUT U CANT ALLOW HIM TO PLAY WITH YOUR HEART LIKE THAT WHILE HE'S WITH SOM1ELSE. TELL HIM HE HAS TO GIVE HER UP NOW IF IT'S TO WORK BETWEEN YOU 2. IT'LL BE WORSE IF YOU'RE HOPING TO MAKE IT WORK WHEN U GET BACK BUT THEN WHEN U DO GET BACK HE SAYS HE'S STAYING WITH HER!
WHEN YOU'RE FEELING REALLY DOWN, SPEND TIME WITH FRIENDS THAT MAKE U HAPPY & DO THINGS U LUV DOING OK? U HAVE TO KEEP TELLING YOURSELF THAT THERE WILL BE GOOD TIMES AFTER ALL THIS PAIN YOU'RE FEELING
REALLY HOPE YOU'RE ALRIGHT!
2007-03-13 21:47:35 · answer #7 · answered by tupac4evaa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi i understand what you attempt to assert. look, love won't have the capacity to be pressurized on all of us, this is on the instant from coronary heart. If u experience so then it form of feels that the flexibility is loss of life out. Please do one factor. before everything confirm in spite of in case you adore him extremely and u can spend your life with him. Secondly, call him up organize a gathering and tell him what difficulty u r dealing with. Please do no longer b rude with him merely loving. tell him that its no that u do no longer love him yet each little thing in severe finally ends up in wreck up and u do no longer choose for to realize this. If he loves you extremely then he will actual understand and ur difficulty would be solved. each and all of the desirable chum!
2016-12-14 18:42:47 · answer #8 · answered by claypoole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is going through the seven year itch early.......the same thing happened to me.....just play hard to get.....trust me.....they come running.....i have been married seven years now because of it.........good luck
2007-03-13 20:32:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they never stop. Its really bad when it's their fault.
2007-03-13 20:28:39 · answer #10 · answered by Ms.Midwest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋