Is my friend an alcoholic?

Question

I'm just so worried about her, she drinks white wine about 4-5 days a week, and about 4 8 oz. glasses every time. She could possibly have more, that's just normally what I see her drink before I leave.

Answer 1

she may not have reached alcoholic status yet but she is defiantly practicing for that day she going to be one i wasted 10 years on a drunk and they are still drunk you will become a drunk before you get her sober dont waste your time life is to short then you die

Answer 2

If this is all she drinks then she's pretty much in that grey area in between.

4 glasses is about a bottle of wine. To drink a bottle 4-5 times a week is drinking quite a bit. Most people don't drink that much without some desire to avoid stress or get through the day, or whatever. There are far more healthy ways to do that. Exercise, for example. Drinking like that tends to lead to drinking more because it is such an easy way to not worry about stuff. Drinking more leads to NEEDING to drink more just to cope.

You get what I'm saying, I hope.

If not: There's a good chance she's drinking as a way of avoiding feelings and/or issues. This is exactly how alcoholism starts.

Helping her with it can be a very sticky issue. Approach her gently, casually, and let her know your concerns about her drinking. Suggest you'd like to see her drink less. Suggest she even drink a glass of water in between each drink. Maybe she just needs that small a nudge. Suggest that she is drinking more than casually and that she should keep her eye on it.

I say "suggest" because to state it as fact can be taken very offensively by someone who is drinking to much. They can see it as being told they are not in control of themselves (even if they aren't) and people don't like being told that.

When I have a friend going through a tough time like this I talk with them about it once. We talk long and hard and I say everything that concerns me. I also make it very clear that I will not bring it up again and that, no matter what, I will be there to support them whenever they need me. And I stick to it. I will only talk about it f they bring it up and I will be there when they finally realize they need help.

That way I can make my concerns known but not risk the friendship. I am also in a better position for them to trust me and come to me when they are ready for help.

Talk to her about it but don't push her. She has to make her own decisions ad come to her own realizations.

Answer 3

If your friend is drinking heavy like this 4-5 days a week she likely has a drinking problem.

Is she going through something that is causing this behavior?

Try talking to her and if this fails, suggest she get help.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

It sounds like she is becoming quite dependant on the alcohol. Maybe the best thing to do is to approach her with your concern. You will have to be very gentle and not accusing because it may be a sensitive issue for her if she already knows it deep down. I can be very touchy. Good luck, just voice your concern and let her know your here for support. Thats all you can do

Answer 5

um no....

i have a glass of wine or two almost every night when i come home. it's relaxing and tastes great.

be worried when she is slurring her words and drinking massive amounts by herself and trying to hide it.

she sounds fine..unless, of course, i am an alcoholic???!!

Answer 6

No she is fine. Just let her be. Join in on the drinking fun!

Answer 7

I reckon she is much on her way on the sad road of alcoholism. If she denies the fact she needs help

Answer 8

It's probably not a problem for her, unless she freaks out when alcohol isnt available.

Answer 9

Could be that she is. Hope not though:( You are a good friend to be concerned.

Answer 10

No silly