i'm not the jealous type. i trust my gf but sometimes i have no problem with her hanging out with her guy friends and i'm even ok with her hanging out with her ex. there's this guy though that she's been talking to and its pretty obvious that he likes her. they met online and i'm sure theres nothing going on right now but like i said, i'm pretty sure he doesn't want to just be friends, and i tell her this...and she doesn't agree. technically they've never met in person but he's been pressing for it a lot lately. the other day when i was with her, he texted her like 15 times in a row no joke...and he calls her quite a bit. well he bought concert tickets and invited her. does that sound strictly platonic? it'd be one thing if it were an extra ticket...or if she was paying her way....but no he payed for her $50 ticket. i'm a guy usually with these circumstances,he's interested more than a friend. its not like they're best friends or anything either. should i just let her go and not care
2007-03-13 19:57:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah he knows she's taken. if i tell him to back off, she'd say i'm being to protective. well we were together for 2 and a half yrs and are now back together so its still a serious thing. she told me its strictly platonic and that he is only interested in friendship and told her that but i still don't believe him. he's been trying this whole concert thing for a while....meaning he's been asking for a while about different concerts. she wants to go but i don't know if i'm ok with it. to be honest, i dont think she'd go for the guy, doesnt seem her type at all...but thats not the point.
2007-03-13 20:10:19 · update #1
she's pretty commited to me, i mean she sometimes talks about getting engaged ect..
i just need to sit down with her and tell her that i'm not being over protective but that i have good reason to believe that he has a thing for her. this may sound stupid...but she's been on his myspace top 1 or top 2 for months...and they've never met...i thought that was odd...and he siad happy v-day to her...i just get a bad vibe. she already told him she'd go ...its in june. i guess i could make up something for us that we HAVE to do...but i dont know.
2007-03-13 20:16:44 · update #2
she's pretty commited to me, i mean she sometimes talks about getting engaged ect..
i just need to sit down with her and tell her that i'm not being over protective but that i have good reason to believe that he has a thing for her. this may sound stupid...but she's been on his myspace top 1 or top 2 for months...and they've never met...i thought that was odd...and he siad happy v-day to her...i just get a bad vibe. she already told him she'd go ...its in june. i guess i could make up something for us that we HAVE to do...but i dont know.
2007-03-13 20:16:45 · update #3
what bothers me the most is that there is NO WAY that she'd be ok with this is the roles were reversed
2007-03-13 20:19:35 · update #4
It is very odd that she would even do this too you. I have girlfriends that I have known for like 15 years and we don't text one another 15 times in a row... **** my guy that I know loves me dearly doesn't even do that. I would watch out for this guy, and let your girlfriend know that this isn't cool. Let her know that you aren't trying to put limits on who she is friends with, but can't she respect you for being worried. I could never do what she is doing to my guy. I would feel horrible, even if there weren't anything going on. Were you invited to the concert? That sounds to me like he is trying to get her alone... be careful!!
2007-03-13 20:04:15 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs♥xoC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you or her know enough about this guy for her to be meeting him for the first time by herself. He sound pretty possesive if he text her like 15 times. Does he know that she has a bf. How much do you know about him you can never be too careful about the people that you meet online and they want to meet in person real fast for no real reason except for friends. I find that hard to believe also because I can talk to my friends online without meeting them and be just fine with it and I sure don't text them all the time. I think you have a legitimate reason to be concerned and I think she is being too trusting even if you don't have a ticktet to the concert Ii would find a way to go just to make sure she is alright.
2007-03-14 03:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!
you are right. trust your instincts.
it is turning serious and is not platonic.
teh other guy does not sound right.
i dont know about your girl friend how she feels about oyu?
is she very much committed to you.
if you both are commited to each other then stop her right now.
you are not the jealous type but your inner senses are giving you warning signals.
because men understand men better than women.
if you love ur gf then go do what you can to prevent it.
( but dont get into a brawl with that guy).
make her see sense.
ps : my husband loves me dearly but he never sends me 15 text messeges in a day!
2007-03-14 03:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAN U BEEN PATIENT ENOUGH
tell her to cut the bull**** out thats not jealousy the problem is its way over a friendship
u must be strict on that issue tell her to stop right away coz u not happy with this particular friendship
take ur stand
2007-03-14 03:15:29 · answer #4 · answered by broderm2k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've told her how you feel about the guy and she's not listening, then that's her fault. It seems like you've said all you can to warn her about his intentions, but she refuses to believe you. Also, it sounds like you have a right to object to their relationship. If she respects your feelings, she will do the right thing. Maybe ask her what she thinks of the guy? Or, take her out to dinner on that night instead. Depending on how strongly you feel about her, consider if it is worth fighting for the relationship.
2007-03-14 03:09:11 · answer #5 · answered by .:miss:. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly how serious are you both about your relationship? Next if you are serious about each other, why is she on the Internet with someone who wants more than friendship, should not she have cut him off earlier??
Therefore, before getting all jealous or fired up, just check with each other, how you feel about her and she about you and than go from there.
2007-03-14 03:03:53 · answer #6 · answered by aew2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let ya girl know how much its really bothering you. because since you're not the jealous type i think shes probably trying to see how far she can push you before you do something to see how much you really do care about her. my ex let me do w/e i want too and i let him go because he didnt care what i did usually.
2007-03-14 03:03:17 · answer #7 · answered by that_lady_sho_sho 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she is either a naive little girl or she is playing stupid, which translates to playing you. I would break it off.
2007-03-14 03:02:33 · answer #8 · answered by I know EVERYTHING! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby she wants her cake and eat it too..... you have to be the one that says **** this sh*t or deal with it. If the are close friends then fine if not why weren"t you invited???? My man is going everywhere I could possibly go...........
2007-03-14 03:05:43 · answer #9 · answered by SuzyQ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋