I've been dating my boyfriend for over a month and he is a great guy. But I am not sexually attracted to him, does that come later on in the relationship? or Should I dump him?
2007-03-13 19:12:16 · 8 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're not feeling it now, you're not going to....how important is sex to you? If you don't care that much about it and he's good to you then you're golden....assuming of course that he doesn't care that much about it or that you're willing to sleep with him anyway.
2007-03-13 19:17:25 · answer #1 · answered by evilim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can love someone that you're with and not be sexually compatible or even have that certain chemistry. For some people, it's a very important factor that can make or break a relationship. Sex is what bonds a loving couple, but if they aren't attracted to one another in that way or it's just a one way street, it can be difficult for both. It's not something that can be taught or gained. Either you have it or you don't. It's not anyone's fault. It's better to know before you get too deep into the relationship and realize or find out then...........
2007-03-14 02:21:52 · answer #2 · answered by artutina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend who felt EXACTLY the way you do. She even said he was like a brother to her. Well, that was 6 years ago and they still are together living happily ever after. The character of the individual is what really counts. If he's a good guy, give it a little more time. See how things go. Now, if you find him repulsive...don't waste his time or yours trying to make something happen when it simply IS NOT there. Good Luck to You!
2007-03-14 02:21:01 · answer #3 · answered by FemFatale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sexual attraction like how? don't you have that "want" or "desire" to at least liplock with him? or you simply just don't see yourself undressing and humping and pumping with him? sex is not the be all and end all of relationships. if at all, sex is just a "plus", especially in more mature relationships when companionship, conversations matter more than doing the deed. my point is, if you don't feel any void inside you because you're not sexually attracted with your boyfriend, i think you're doing just okay. let me know if this becomes an issue with your boyfriend *winks*
2007-03-14 02:25:44 · answer #4 · answered by everyday_super_hero 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but ,if you feel nothing now when things should be hot and spicy ,you will never feel anything.And how does he feel about it ? Or do you just go through the motions ? Anyway ,you deserve the spark ,the butterflies ...It appears your good friends , maybe you should remain that way and find someone your hot for ... :)
2007-03-14 02:24:23 · answer #5 · answered by tammie1ca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if there's not a spark, you're wasting your time.
dump him girl, and asap, but gently.
just explain that he is a wonderful guy, but there's no chemistry and you feel that he and you would be more suited for other partners, but you'd like to remain friends. just be honest.
you should NEVER force yourself to do something, especially when it comes to the heart. this is your life, do with it as you will. you don't owe this guy anything, so don't feel bad about moving on.
good luck honey! <3
2007-03-14 02:18:33 · answer #6 · answered by mica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with my bf of nearly 4 months...i'm just the same. I'm starting to freak out coz he can't seem to get enough of me and i do love him. Some help would be appreciated by me too!!
2007-03-14 02:16:17 · answer #7 · answered by Bambi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, since sex is the subject matter, you should do a lot or oral on him to get the attraction back.
2007-03-14 02:17:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋