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Question

So I just had this talk with my boyfriend and Im freaking out. Something was brought up about sex with past partners and I told him he is the best I have had. I honestly meant it! Ive NEVER told any other person that! He said "ive heard that b4..I think girls lie about it". He said he believes that I mean it, but Im not sure. I told him that the last couple guys I have dated were worthless, crappy boyfriends, and that hes the 1st good guy ive been with, and he said he had heard that b4 too. We have only been dating a couple months and I feel like I am falling for him. I am so scared to tell him because I dont want to scare him, and lose him. I feel wonderful when Im with him! Should I worry about the talk we had, or drop it? He said he's not mad about anything we talked about, and I believe him. His last gf cheated on him, and I dont want him to think Im gonna do that to him! Do u think he is just putting up a guard so he doesnt get hurt? Any advice??????

im just scared to lose him! should i drop the conversation we had earlier & not bring it up again?

he also said "girls are supposed to play hard to get"....and i dont with him..and i didnt...should that bother me? am i freaking out over nothing
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Answer 1

you said enough & he believes in you (tho' he added that he heard the same thing before)..so keep it that way. if he'll not bring the issue again then enough said. its been barely 2 months of dating so ur on the stage of gettin to know who.. just be yourself & enjoy each others company. when you arrive at discussions that sounds like comparing ur past to present..be on guard next time. you can share him how you feel about certain issues (esp. exs') w/out actually too blant to say that 'he wasnt good,u r better" stuff. Its never good to compare. Remember that u were once a part of ur past relationship, somehow he had a space in you. if not, you would have not plunged into it. The guy u r currently dating is being more particular now since he was cheated before so avoid issues that will bring him back the sad memories. However, you can listen to them when he freely talks bout it but never bring up the issue.

Answer 2

So what you are saying is that because of the best sex you had, you loved this man? How could you compare people like that? You will hurt the rest of the men you have slept with and for that matter, this will not reflect well on you , as a person. To experience something likve love making is an experience to keep and not boasting everywhere, telling your friends how great the man was in bed. It is not right. So now that this has happened, I guess you have to give him time to understand what is going on and accept this in life.

Answer 3

Its sounds like this guy is scared. I would drop the topic of trying to convince him hes the best etc though because if you bring it up too much it might just make him even more paranoid that your trying to hard. However don't hide that your falling for him he needs to know your feelings are mutual. Also if you want to give him reasons about why your falling for him (in the time you see fit) think of the little things he does that you pick up on, maybe somthing as small as the way he sings to a certain song whenever its on the radio, it shows you arn't just saying some line and that you pick up on unique asspects of who he is and thats why hes the guy for you.

Answer 4

Well, girls do lie about it...but assuming you're being honest and he's had some bad experiences then he's probably just a little raw. He'll come around.

Answer 5

show him you love him, don't tell him . . . yet. Wait a little while, what's the rush. Enjoy your relationship and have fun, don't worry about anything. ENJOY LIFE and when the time is right you can let him know, hopefully by the time you tell him verbally he will already know.