He goeseverywhere with er,watches all movies and t.v. with her,talks on the phone in front of her,talks to her about EVERYTHING(including phone conversations),she does his laundry and cleans his room..He's 25 and doesn't sound like he plans on leaving..whenever we talk about moving in together he starts going on about how this or that place is close to his parents house.He has an older brother that's married with kids in another state and hasn't lived at home since he was 22.His parents are still married,mother is not elderly or sickly..spends more time with him than shedoeswith her hubby............what is all this about?What should I do?
2007-03-13 19:08:54 · 8 answers · asked by Direktor 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unless you want to play second fiddle to mommy.....head for the hills.
2007-03-13 19:12:34 · answer #1 · answered by evilim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would. He clearly loves his mother and treats her well enough that she doesnt mind him still living at home....that means whoever he eventually marries will benefit from having a man that actually likes and respects women.
I suspect that whoever he ends up with might be someone that gets on with his parents too......so you might want to become the daughter she always wanted instead of fighting or being jealous over something that you dont have any need to?
People do change when they fall in-love and want a family of their own. You shouldnt expect him to dump his family when you havent even got to the stage where a commitment is to be made.
I'd also give up the idea of moving in with him. Why would he want to leave home, unless its to get married? Financially it wouldnt make sense if he's happy where he is. Just date, see where that leads....and see if he prefers to spend more time with you. Even if he lived in a bachelor pad...that is how one usually starts dating...slowly....not "oh youre nice, I think Illl move in".
2007-03-13 19:28:08 · answer #2 · answered by Scully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guy is 35 and lives w/ mom and I know all about that. It can be so annoying. 25 is alot younger than 35. Is he independent? Can he be by himself or does he always have to be with someone? Be careful with mama boys becasue sometimes they expect you to do what there mother does, and you are not there mother. It scares me with my man cuz of that, he tells her everything before he even tells me. I cannot figure out why. Its ok to love your mother, but not treat her like shes your wife
2007-03-13 19:14:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to ask yrself then, how much do you love him, and did he has any plan to get marry and move out. If his is nt then u need to consider that loving him come with a package that is his mum, hw much do you like his mum.
2007-03-13 19:12:56 · answer #4 · answered by ButterMilkQueso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha i think not, have you seen the movie "psycho" i suggest watching it before you go out with this guy. or maybe he just likes his mother a lot and they are best friends, it may seem weird but it just shows he has a sensitive side. but seriously watch the movie psycho.
2007-03-13 19:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a new guy. i mean if he is perfect in every other way than maybe hes ok, but this does not sound normal.
2007-03-13 19:13:11 · answer #6 · answered by Interested 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't go out with him, or tease him into really liking you and moving out. And I mean "tease" in a "naughty" way.
2007-03-13 19:12:26 · answer #7 · answered by h.marieh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should find someone else. This guy wants and needs his mommy. He doesn't need you. Sorry, but that is what I see.
2007-03-13 19:12:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋