How do you discipline your children?

Answer 1

Take things away but then move on to spanking

Answer 2

Discipline is highly overrated. Children need very little, if any, discipline. What children want is attention and approval. I played with my children all the time and I was very quick to notice the things they did well and praise them accordingly.

Having been a parent, having observed parenting for many years, and having been a problem child myself, I also came to the conclusion that, as a parent, it is better to do nothing than to do the wrong thing when your child has done something incorrect. I have experience in this regard both as a child and as a parent. Children know when they've done something they shouldn't have done and if you've been a good parent they will usually draw the correct conclusions all by themselves.

My son and one of his friends once broke into a neighbor's garage. With the neighbor at my door, my son came walking up the sidewalk. The sheepish look on his face revealed that he knew exactly who that man was and why he was there. My son walked inside as I was paying the man $50 for his broken window. I said to my son, "You won't be getting any allowance until your 35." He smiled and I allowed him to walk on by without incident. We never spoke about it again and no similar incident ever occurred again.

I have a strong, confident personality and this clearly is a valuable asset in that type of parenting. There was never any doubt about my authority; but I never used a heavy hand and my children were always free to voice their anger and disagreements. They also participated in the choices we made as a family. There was a time when we failed to put a bid on a house because my 7 year old daughter didn't particularly care for the bedroom that would have been hers. Rather than beat them down with discipline, we empowered our children and attempted to instill them with self-confidence.

My children were never spanked and they were never grounded. Nor were they ever denied any privileges-- and the results are in. My daughter is currently in college on a full academic scholarship and my son, the snot-nosed little vandal, is a PhD chemist.

Answer 3

Talking. Make them understand what they did was wrong and why. Teach them the respectful right way. Stress on importance of being a good child.

Don't over lecture too much they might just turn deaf on you. Ignore you. Let them know how it affects you too when they are being undiscipline.

Simple punishment like cleaning or some other additional chore. Don't let them go out with friends or TV. Make them read.

Violence is not the answer; it just scars their childhood and doesn't it break your heart when your children are hurt in any form? This is why some kids turn into runaways or backlash at you when they grow up. Let children know how each time its hurts you that they are being bad. If you show them how much you love them and they truly care about you then they won't ever do anything bad again try as they might.

Today, parents are also an important role as friends to their children to establish good relationships. It is proven to be more beneficial than simply throwing cash in their face and ignoring them or beating them which will only hurt them a lot more physically and emotionally.

Answer 4

I don't really do it much any longer...she is 21, and adult and disciplines herself. When she was growing up I used the behavior/reward system and priveliges. When she behaved all day she would get an hour of television, video games, whatever. When she didn't behave she didn't get those privleges. There was no television/gamesystems in her room, no computer in there no stereo. I don't beleive in having those things in the bedrooms, bedrooms are for resting, sleeping, relaxing, reflecting and quiet reading. They are not media rooms. It wasn't until she could purchase her own did my daughter get a computer in her bedroom...she was 17...she also pays half of the internet bill. She got her own television in her room when she was 18...yes she paid for it herself and pays half of the dish network bill. She purchased her own phone plan...I didn't see the necessity of my having to pay for her calls. I would love to say that my6 daughter was a perfect angel growing up but that would be a lie. She went through the terrible twos, we had our momens during her teens. But I stuck to my guns...when I set a rule I don't negotiate. And now she is in college fulltime, works part time has a social life sits on City Council (although she is going to be giving that up soon) and somewhere in there finds time to watch television or email/chat with friends...
And I never found it necessary to spank, swat, hit or use any type of physical violence on my daughter.

Answer 5

I give a warning telling her what she did and not to do it again. If she does, she sits in time out. I tell her for example, i told you not to throw that and you did so you sit in time out. then i walk away. after her time is up I go tell her what she did wrong and that if she does it again she'll go right back in time out. (I keep it short and sweet). I ask her to say sorry and give her a hug and kiss. Then I get her engaged in something else. When she is behaving I tell her how proud I am that she's playing nicely with her friends, or if she cleans up her toys I tell her great job. I think positive reinforcement is just as important as disciplining negative behavior. Consistency is key.

Answer 6

Firmly, and, with kindness and a lot of love. This is what little children and then again children of all ages lack and need most in this fast moving merry-go-round we call "Our World".

Answer 7

1) ask/talk to them nicely..
2) if they insist give them a warning..
3) You can hit them but not too harsh.
Warning!!: do not use cane or any object to hit ur child.
use ur hand as u noe how hard u had hit ur child.
OR : take away things that they like and always play wif.

Answer 8

1) sweetie don't do that.
if that dosent work...
2) Sean I said don't do that then say it firm athouritive but loving wayexplain to him why he shouldn't do that and give him a time out

if that dosent work, give him a spanking,then explain why you spanked him,why he deserved t and then tell him you will always love him

Answer 9

When she was little, I would giver time outs. Now that she is older, restriction, privileges revoked, items removed.

Answer 10

i play good cop!! =) husband plays bad cop!! but thats to our dogs! my baby isnt born yet! but im sure it will be the same thing!