..I have 1 freind who has a 2 year old boy..the same age as my son.Both of our husbands are currently training to be Deployed soon.Anyways..She is only 19 but she does not know how to take care of her son that well.I have been taking care of him for a week,and a half now.Since she got a job close to where she lives.We live kinda far from one onother.She Has been leaving her son with me day/nite cuz she says she has no gas $.Should i charge her for taking the extra time to take care of him?.It makes me mad that she says she has no money when they just got paid.BUT i hear she cant spend hes $ so she will only pay me when she gets paid.I dont have a issue with that,but i take the extra time to take care of hime.She has drinking issues that she wont admit,any how my question is.SHould i charge her for practicaly having her live here?I mean Were not rich either..she wont bring him baby wipes,or nothing i provide all of that.what do you suggest i do?overcharge her?were not that close freinds
2007-03-13 18:45:00 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You should politely ask her to pay for your services or you simply refuse to oblige her . I think she is your friend just because she needs your help. Besides you have your son to look after and he may feel neglected because you are giving an equal amount of time for the other kid. Its like having twins isn't it? If you earn out of your services you feel kinda good and it will show in your taking care of the babies. Now the scene is, you doing all her and your major duties of a mother and the housework while she is earning dollars.
All the best,
Suparna
2007-03-13 18:59:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sitting for "friends" is really a gamble. Unless you two were super professional about it then you don't have a contract specifying prices for time of care. I don't think there is much chance of you collecting much for any of the extra time you've already spent watching him up to now. And it's probably a 50/50 chance if you'll collect for the regular times you agreed on.
You do have the option of setting firmer rules for future sitting but you have to set something you can stand up for. Like not taking the kid if she doesn't have a packed diaper bag for him or charging for providing that stuff. And yes, I would either be charging extra for overnights or turning her in to the police if she just didn't show up.
I know of a couple of people who have asked me to be their daycare provider and I've refused because they acted a lot like that. I just don't think the headaches are worth it.
2007-03-14 12:12:29 · answer #2 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you maybe somehow contact her husband's CO or something? There should be some sort of support system to help her out while her husband is gone. If anything, her husband should know what is going on so that he can try to change the situation. If you can't find any help through the military, you should report her for abandonment.
2007-03-14 02:33:34 · answer #3 · answered by Lyzz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I misunderstood the question. She is living with you? In that case you should speak with her and charge her. Also be careful. If she is living with you and something happens to the child and CPS comes in, they will take away your child until they can investigate that you are a good mother. I have seen this happen with family members who had friends living with them.
2007-03-14 01:49:09 · answer #4 · answered by Peggy Pirate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most certainly! She sounds like a moocher! Tell her she will have to start paying you rent, gas money, baby food etc. Everything! She has no right to come in and just expect you to foot her and her kids bills! That's HER responsability!
2007-03-14 01:58:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
report her to social services
2007-03-14 03:14:30 · answer #6 · answered by unhappily married 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋