My ex-boyfriend and I broke up 6 months after I left for college but have remained friends (he broke up with me b/c he couldn't handle the long distance and I am also seven years younger.) Its been 2 1/2 years and he continues to call me every two weeks or so, send me texts saying he misses me etc. He use to want to get sexual with me when I came to visit but now, for the first time ever..he said he has to be good and the sex is "weird" because we do it and then don't talk for awhile. tells me he loves me, misses me, but has to be good. What does this mean? he says doesn't love anyone else and texts me all the time saying he misses me etc. . do you think he wants me for the future and doesnt want to ruin it? does this show respect? what do you think? he changed his behavior after he thought he hurt me by being too busy to see me a couple time when i came home to visit. does he see me for the future if he conitnues this contact 2 1/2 years after he broke up with me?
2007-03-13 18:43:49 · 12 answers · asked by Janie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmmm, not enough info to tell really, but he may have to be good either because religion (you tell us, is he religious?) or he is in a relationship (hence he has to be good).
No way to tell for sure, my advice is to confront him about it. Just ask him what he means by being good; is it church or another girl?
It is the only way u will know.
2007-03-13 18:48:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't making any sense...I thought you said he broke up with you. If that's the case why are you having sex with this guy. I mean do you have sex with all your ex boy friends...wow what a mess you are setting yourself up for. For his side...I think he is feeling like what I just said. He feels like you have a friendship not a romance and as such shouldn't be having sex but his hormones are taking over and then afterwards he isn't feeling real good about it. Long distance relationships rarely work and you are making it more difficult by virtue of the fact that there is such an age difference. Continuing to have sex with him will only confuse the situation further for both of you. Good Luck!
2007-03-13 18:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by chcman74 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Judging by his behavior he cares a lot about you, and shows that he's a friend by keeping in touch. Maybe he doesn't want to ruin it, but guys usually don't turn down sex...unless they have two really good reasons, such as they are just not attracted to you, and they are involved with someone and find it risky.
Why would he tell you he's with someone new if he thinks it will hurt you? It's chicken sh*t yes, but still. I think he has someone, whether or not he loves that person is an entirely different issue. I'd say keep your distance, or remain friends with no strings attached, and enjoy that.
2007-03-13 18:50:46 · answer #3 · answered by Gorgeous George 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you examine his upbringing and cultural influences. Is he from a religious and conservative family? Maybe being "good" is the way that he was taught to express devotion and respect to a woman. Also, if it's been six months...you might just want to ask him (considerately) why he's chosen to take this stance...and why not having sex is "good." Good Luck.
2007-03-13 18:53:03 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After somebody breaks up,intercourse turns into awkward.He may well be terrified of loving and dropping you back.it may desire to have broke his coronary heart to be rejected by way of you or disillusioned in himself for letting you bypass.If it form of feels awkward to be around one yet another,then it's time to go on.Alot of exes have not got intercourse while they injury up.in my view it seems such as you opt for acquaintances with reward,and he could understand that.Like I stated he could desire to love you and terrified of loving you back.
2016-10-02 02:20:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This shows he is mature, and the relationship he wants with you isn't all about the sex. I think this should be showing you how much respect he has for not only you, but himself as well.
2007-03-13 18:48:20 · answer #6 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why u staying with him and playing his game..he is 7 years older than U ...why u want him>. find a guy in your age ASAP and dump him... send me email we talk...it is a serious problem
2007-03-13 18:49:50 · answer #7 · answered by Richard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its sound he has a girl friend and he commit also too many head game let its go move on before you get hurt trust your feely
2007-03-13 18:54:39 · answer #8 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's one of two things....either he's got a girlfriend and he's feeling guilty, or he's realized he's gay and isn't ready to come out yet.
2007-03-13 18:47:59 · answer #9 · answered by evilim 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He seems like he is trying to respect you
it seems like he is tryin not to ruin what you have
2007-03-13 18:48:10 · answer #10 · answered by Lee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋