I have been in love with my boyfriend for 4 years and we had a two years old daughter together, we had been so much in love and were planning to be tying the knot by April this year but know I no longer understanding him he seem to be no longer in love or interested in me. Should I go on with the marriage or call it off?
2007-03-13 18:42:15 · 11 answers · asked by danny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
all relationships (including marriage and engagments) go through cycles... ups and downs. You should ask yourself how hard are you willing to fight for the love you have? If you are willing to give up so easily, then no you shouldnt get married. If you are willing to work on this to make it through the rough patches then you need to start NOW! Log off immediately, walk into the room that your fiance' is in and tell him that you need to talk with him. Explain to him that you are feeling a little neglected and that you are worried about your relationship. Look deeply and honestly at your relationship... when did it start to seem that he was pulling away? Was it right after the baby's birth? Some men have a hard time seeing the new mother of their child as a sexual being anymore... if that is the case you need to work on rekindling your sexuality together. Whether it is getting a babysitter once a week to go out on a "date night" or whether it is buying yourself some lingerie and wearing it for him. You need to communicate together though, communication is the base of any good marriage.
2007-03-13 18:55:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to figure this out is to ask him how he really feels about you. Tell him that you are getting the impression that he is no longer in love with you and why you think that. He could just be going through a weird time or dealing with things at work or elsewhere that have made him different lately. I think you'll know if he is still head over heels for you by his answer. Talking to him about this is the only way you'll know for sure... good luck!
2007-03-13 18:50:45 · answer #2 · answered by jlg_jdf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should talk to him about how you feel, if you have been in love with him for four years and you guys had a kid together that has gotta tell you something, he could just be going through a weird phase like most guys tend to do. if you call the marriage off you will regret it plus your daughter could end up with out a daddy.
2007-03-13 18:52:52 · answer #3 · answered by nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need time together, sometimes when children come along we forget to make time for each other. Can you get a babysitter and spend time alone? Have a romantic meal and some quality time, you will know if he is still interested by his reaction. Talk to him, communication is the key.
Good luck
2007-03-14 11:33:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband says something funny every so often if I ask him if he still loves me. "I told you I love you this morning, and I came home tonight. If it changes, I'll let you know."
Some guys just aren't super demonstrative about stuff like this, and he may also be giving you plenty of space during the wedding planning--or staying out of your way--depending on how well you're handling it. If you're concerned, talk to him about it, but I'd say it sounds like you're just being a wee bit insecure here. Good luck, and definitely go ahead with the marriage!!
2007-03-13 18:53:36 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suggest you dump him and live with your daughter because there is no point in going on the marriage with a man that is not in love with u
2007-03-13 18:59:44 · answer #6 · answered by LivTyler 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You do need advice you should be going to marital council ling to see what is going on. If its not right its not right. It May also be stress from upcoming nuptials me and women act differently before a wedding.
2007-03-13 18:56:43 · answer #7 · answered by emmandal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only advice i can give you is go with your heart, as any advice any one gives you is what they would do not necessarily what you want, good luck with what ever you decide
2007-03-14 03:54:02 · answer #8 · answered by ann113599 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put it off and get counseling.
2007-03-13 19:41:02 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down and talk to him it might be last minute nerves
2007-03-15 07:56:07 · answer #10 · answered by sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋