How do I get over a man that I've been with for six years, have a child with and is still in love with? Help please it hurts so bad.
2007-03-13 18:40:36 · 8 answers · asked by angeleyes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't just get over it hon, you work though the pain and generally come out on the other side. In time you pain will turn into a dull ache and will be a part of you, but not in a bad way. the dull ache will be that of experience. I don't have children, but I do understand what it's like to love someone so much and feel that you have been shattered to a million pieces once the relationship is over. Dearheart, I am here to tell you that you will make it through this with a lot of crying, sadness, anger and a lot of prayer. Have courage, I will pray for you and you will get through this. Good luck and God bless.
2007-03-13 18:48:54 · answer #1 · answered by Almarie L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The thing is you will never get over him. You have a child with him so every time you look at your child you will see him. I went through the same thing about 1 yr ago and to this day I'm still not over him we have 3 kids together. We were together for 8yrs. It's hard.
Look all you can do is start to live for you and your child make the most out of life. Just remember don't talk bad of him with your child around they pick up on so much. You don't want your child to feel he/she has to choose a side. My boys go to there dad's every weekend.
The worst thing to do is to have a false hope of you getting back with him. It's not worth the time or the heart ache, you could be wasting good healing time if you dwell in the past.
You will get through it, it's up to you how long you take.
2007-03-13 19:08:57 · answer #2 · answered by bvan_25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. I know love can be a hurtful thing as well as the best thing you can experience. The good memories is what keeps you wanting to try. Now take a look at the other memories. Is it worth it? Are you worth more? Does he want to be with you? Have a child, but not married? Not trying to hurt you any more, but want to be real. Think about this...who control your happiness, thoughts, emotions? YOU. The mind is a powerful thing. If you decided to change the way you felt right now, if you were metally strong enough you could. Like someone told me, don't let anyone steal your joy!!! You are worth loving :-)
2007-03-13 18:48:35 · answer #3 · answered by blank 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh goodness, what happened??
Well its time to renew urself, &gain perspective. Start conserntrating on u and ur child. At the moment whether u realized or not, ur mind set was in the "us" mode or habit which u need to first get out off.
How?? simple: shopping for u &ur child, going out with ur friends, &talk- lay every aspect of ur realationship out, by talking u listen to what u say &through that u'll realize what u'd like to change now.
And dont worry, there is a life beyond a relationship, u just have to want to look for it.
2007-03-13 19:11:48 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep busy with work, family, friends. Replace him with another man when the times is right. Let time heal u until then.
I know it hurts sug, but u gotta keep ya head up and keep trying. All of us do:)
2007-03-13 18:45:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if nothing else you have to be there for your child. Put your child first. Things will get better as you go. Good Luck to you.
2007-03-13 18:45:49 · answer #6 · answered by winona e 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you may not get over him for a long time, but just keep taking it one day at a time, soon he will be a distant memory, but never stop living life, get out and enjoy, it will help tremendously
2007-03-13 18:45:27 · answer #7 · answered by astronurd2004 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hard vary hard . he may be back . just take care of the baby keep busy. just don't sit at home all the time. go out and have a good time. don't look back look forward. start your new life. (sorry for you)
2007-03-13 18:49:36 · answer #8 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋