i meet this girl a couple of weeks ago and me and her have grown to become really good friends. from the look of things (random midnight calls, laughing at my stupid jokes etc) theres no doubt that i know we like each other. during our last hangout the topic of where this connection is heading to was raised. she says that she's really sensitive when it comes to relationships with guys and getting emotionally involved is kind of hard cause she has a handful of issues going on in her life at the moment. what she said was acceptable but then to be honest i was kind of disappointed that i couldn't be that special person who wanted to help her out whenever she needed me. oh well i gave up and accepted her terms but when i was dropping her off, she gives me a good wet one on the cheek and says that she has never done this to a guy friend before( the kiss that is). ladies what does this mean??what the hell is going on here?? i'm confused, can someone help me understand her action?
2007-03-13 18:20:09 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's letting you know she's been hurt before and she's not sure how you were feeling, so she gave you an opportunity to tell her how deep your feelings were.
The kiss on the cheek is platonic, a kiss on the mouth would have signaled to you that she wants more but is not sure where she stands with you. I would continue to be her friend, let her make the next move.
2007-03-13 18:25:00 · answer #1 · answered by wickdsinnr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's odd to me too.
1. if she kissed you (how could you possibly believe that she hasn't done it before)
2. Sounds off balance in the brain
3. She is laying out room for just in case you don't work out. She has away back because she has already admitted she has some issues. That is where is excuse stems from "it's not you, it's me"
4. Don't fall into the trap.
WHAT YOU CAN DO
Tell her, "honestly, i really see alot of great things in you. But I really would like be really good friends right now."
That puts away the awkward crap she is pulling and lets her know that you are in control. She will stop playing head games, cause that's exactly what it is.
Most girls that do that, will usually stop, and probly try winning you over instead because they are not the most important thing anymore.
Express to her that you really would like to be there for her, and you appreciate her opening up to you, but you would like to avoid the awkward situations (like the kiss,,etc...)
You probly want to stay her friend and want more, but hang back a little, kind of like it's no big deal, she is just causing some drama right now.
She will see that you don't play into that stuff and that you are not like everyone else, and she may wise up.
She might even try to push the issue by telling you about another guy, if she does, talk to her about him like a big brother. She will again see that YOU are the one in control and she can't pull your strings.
That's all she is really doing.
hope this helps
2007-03-13 18:32:42 · answer #2 · answered by Stamping Machine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you how many times I've heard this!!!! Don't worry and don't give up on her just yet. I know from experience that girls who usually stop you dead in your tracks only to reel you in a little bit closer again afterwards like you. She needs some time, so give it to her. Give her what she needs right now, which is a friend. If there is no doubt that she likes, then you got nothing to worry about. She needs time and you'll know when she's ready. Then go for it!!!! She likes you!!!!
2007-03-13 18:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by Roger 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok well a girls life is just confusing we can hardly even figure our selves out. most likely she likes having you as a friend but i think that the whole kiss thing was her contemplating weather she likes you as more then a friend or not. she can't make up her mind. she likes having someone who likes her but doesnt know if she feels the same. she has probably had her heart broken before , thats where the sensitive thing comes in.
2007-03-13 18:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give this girl a little more time to get to know and trust you, and you will understand about the kiss. She will tell you in time, if she doesn't you can either ask her or find someone else.
2007-03-13 18:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by Hillia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult to understand a girl's actions, so just enjoy yourself and try to duplicate the situation so that she gives you a good wet one on the cheek again and again, maybe it could trigger the correct button, for love to flow from her side.
2007-03-13 18:29:14 · answer #6 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and women often misunderstand each other. She might like you a whole lot but not be ready for anything beyond that kiss. Tell her the kiss confused you and ask her what it meant to her.
2007-03-13 18:27:59 · answer #7 · answered by callmeplayfair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She likes you and she wants to trust you. Be a friend and don't pressure her into anything. The best of friends make the best of lovers. All things come in due time. Just show her that you will be there for her and actually do it.
2007-03-13 18:23:55 · answer #8 · answered by my_own_frog 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She likes you no doubt. Why she doesn't want a relationship could be a few reasons. 1. she doesn't want one but likes the attention you are giving her 2. she really is afraid of being hurt so she wants to "have her cake and eat it too" so to speak 3. she wants to be hard to get
2007-03-13 18:24:00 · answer #9 · answered by ambrosius15 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she is kind of playing with you, but that's not necessarily a bad thing. next time be open and honest, let her know you want her. give her a real kiss and see where it goes. you have nothing to lose! you want something, go get it!
2007-03-13 18:23:49 · answer #10 · answered by splenda sweet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋