I'd liked to be able to ask girls out, but I always think to myself: "Why would they wan't to waste their time with me?"
I'm not good enough for any girl. Any encouraging words?
2007-03-13 17:54:45 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, QUIT DEGRADING YOURSELF!! If you convince yourself that your not good enough for any girl, guess what, when the right one comes along, you'll be all like "I'm not good enough for her", without even realizing that she likes you!!!! So get rid of your negative attitude!!!!
Second, you will eventually find a girl that will be crazy enough to want to spend her valuble time with you.
So dont waste your time being obsessed with finding a girlfriend! If you act desperate or whatever, girls can sense that, and guess what- it's a really big turn off.
So I dare you- within 5 days ask out a girl that you like, if she says no, then that's her problem and she probobly just wrecked her chances with a great guy.
And sorry to be so blunt, but you needed to hear it.
Good luck!
~Brunette Poet
2007-03-15 20:50:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a list of the good things about yourself. After you are done, at the very top, write "Why girls would be lucky enough to go out with me".
Now, I'm going to tell you what I told another girl on here recently. My grandmother had a saying about finding your life partner. She would say, "every pot has a lid." You just have to search for it.
You sound refreshing compared to so many of the guys with overly inflated egos. If you tell yourself you are a waste of time you aren't giving yourself a fair shot so how can you expect someone else to? The right girl is out there for you. How about asking some girls out until you find her. Believe me, she is waiting for you and wondering if you exist. Go find her!
2007-03-14 03:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by Im Listening 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have at least a little bit of confidence in yourself. If your good at something focus on that If you don't think you're good looking think about all the people out there that weren't blessed with the looks you take for granted. If you don't think your smart think about all the people that you are smarter than. But if you don't have any confidence at all and want to be scared and feel sorry for yourself, I can guarantee you no girl is going to want to get with a guy that doesn't even think he is even worth wasting their time over.
2007-03-14 01:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by hottdamnpam_2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound stupid to you but it works. Every week write down five really awesome qualities about yourself. Such as 1. Smart 2. Good at sports 3. Nice eyes 4. Good at math, 5. Empathetic, etc.
Review them in your mind, and say them aloud everyday (to yourself of course). I'll bet you in a month you'll have more confidence because you'll realize that you have all these wonderful qualities, why wouldn't a girl want to go out with you? =)
2007-03-14 01:09:50 · answer #4 · answered by ShaBoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE ONLY AS GOOD AS YOU TRY stop worrying about what anyone will think, just be yourself i am sure you are just as good as anyone else, you seem like a nice person, next time you want to ask someone out just ask the worst thing that can happen is for them to say no, and if they do say no then find someone else don't give up
2007-03-14 00:58:36 · answer #5 · answered by mrs garfield 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once felt like you too... as in why would guys want to waste their time with me...
maybe you can try online dating? you chat a lot first, know the other person through their personality, and if the right time comes, maybe both of you can meet up, have a coffee and talk more to know each other better...
but, just take necessary precautions to prevent any undesirable happenings... ...
2007-03-14 01:07:36 · answer #6 · answered by Daffodil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only reason a girl wouldn't want you is BECAUSE you think so lowly of yourself!
i know that seems like a never ending cycle (they don't like that i hate myself so i hate myself even more...)
but in reality, its the other way around! there is only one thing to do!
you must have confidence in yourself, and then the girls will like you!
take chances in life and celebrate your accomplishments, learn from your mistakes and don't dwell on them
Girls look for confidence, then they look for everything else to go with it, so maybe buy yourself some nice cologne, but don't wear it to heavy!
good luck, you can do it!
^,^Cory Smith
2007-03-14 00:59:59 · answer #7 · answered by Cory S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to just go for it maybe she will say yes. You shouldn't give up on yourself like that. It's better to go ahead and do it and be wondering about it. If she says no then there's plenty of fish in the sea right. It might boost up your self esteem.
2007-03-14 01:00:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thinking like that is only hurting yourself.
If your a good person and you treat a girl with respect than atleast one girl would want to waste their time with you.
It wouldnt be wasting, but yah know what I mean.
Yah gotta learn to love yourself before any one else can!!
2007-03-14 00:57:31 · answer #9 · answered by princessamber_89 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you're HOT. There's probably lots of girls out there who have a crush on a guy like you becuase of who you are.
2007-03-14 00:59:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋