ok this is what happened, i've met this girl who i liked and i told her that i was from a country, but the truth is that im really not from that country and she doesnt know that. Right now i've been dating her for almost 10 months and i dont know how to tell her the truth about where im from. I've been feeling so bad that i've lied to her about that and i want her to know the truth about where i'm from but i really don't know how to tell her...someone please please please help me...i want honest answers please no jokes.
2007-03-13 17:38:44 · 16 answers · asked by Bling Bling 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The longer you wait, the more damage is done. Stop lying to people about yourself. Tell her the truth and explain why you lied to her. If you lie about something like that, you will probably lie about other things and she will surely know that. Come clean and stop lying.
2007-03-13 17:44:58 · answer #1 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off, lying is never a good way to start a relationship, and carrying it on for this long is going to make it harder for her to accept. Also, have you made it a focal point of your relationship? In other words, has it been something to the extent of "I'm from France" and then you've talked about your heritage, and brought it up throughout the 10 months of dating, like "I miss France," or "In France we do this." ? If so, then the relationship was built on a lie, and I am sorry to say you will be facing a very hard time making it workout when the truth comes out (and it will wither you tell her or not). If it was more or less telling her you were from another country to try to impress her, and then you dropped it, coming forward and being honest won't be as hard. Just tell her the truth(if that is the case), and tell her that you told her because you don't want there to be any lies in your relationship. Good luck.
2007-03-14 00:44:42 · answer #2 · answered by psalms1192532 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a good lesson to learn for being truthful. I understand that over the internet, we ALL lie. Even if they're LITTLE ant lies that really don't matter, they're still lies. Don't beat yourself up about it & tell her the truth. If she gets mad, tell her you never thought you would end up dating her & you wanted to make a good impression, so you lied.
She won't take it well, most likely, but that's in the past. You can't change what you did & she shouldn't expect you to pay for lying that 1 time.
Yes, lying is bad, but we've all done it & heck, you didn't know you were going to end up w/ this girl. If i were in this situation, i would do the same thing. â¥
2007-03-14 00:45:14 · answer #3 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I'd like to know why you told her you were from somewhere else. Was it a matter of being ashamed of your ethnic background or something else? You need to cope with why you lied to her, answer it to yourself and then tell the girl the truth. She deserves to know the truth. If she has a problem with where you're from she'll either have to get over it or be on her way if she won't accept the truth! In any event, if she accepts your apology then the two of you were meant to be and if not, let her go, get on with your life and be proud of who you are and where you came from!
2007-03-14 00:53:53 · answer #4 · answered by lilbit48vmb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come clean. Tell her the truth. If it is the only thing you have lied about, for instance, to impress her or make her feel better about her own background, she might understand, and that would be great. If you have lied about a lot of things, you have a bigger problem you need to solve. Either way, understand that she may or may not be cool with what you did, so your outcome may be good or bad. Good luck.
2007-03-14 00:47:36 · answer #5 · answered by callmeplayfair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her exactly what you wrote here...that you feel so bad about it and want to get things straight. If she likes you, she won't have a problem forgiving you. If she's not so happy with you you will lose her. Either way you win! You don't want to be with someone who isn't as happy with you as you are with them! If you lose her, that will just have to be the price you pay for your lie. Learn from this and don't mislead the next one.
I hope this helps! Good luck!
You sound like a likeable guy - things will probably work out just fine. Be brave and do the right thing.
2007-03-14 00:46:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would dump u in a new york min just for the fact that u lie.. no for where u r from...10 MONTHS. r u nutzz. A relationship requery some respect... an u have give her betray since day one no u feel bad i hope u do dont lie no matter what is it the treu will make u free no u know that the old guy who says that is right do something for urself... be urself and be honest to urself...i cant think why someone will lie about where they r from... i am hispanic.... and i proud.... not from mexico... i am hispanic...
2007-03-14 00:44:54 · answer #7 · answered by chance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to buck up and be a man. Tell the truth and accept the consequences. Don't try to weasel out of it, that will only make it worse. If you are ever going to be honest (with her or anybody) you have to start today.
Good luck.
2007-03-14 00:42:04 · answer #8 · answered by avengepluto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her the truth, explain to her why you lied, work things out with her. The longer you wait to tell her the truth, the worse things will get, imagine if she found out from another source?
2007-03-14 00:41:40 · answer #9 · answered by Woody 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that is a pretty messed up thing to do. Im guessing that you didnt think it would go this far lol?
The only way the relationship will work is if you tell her the truth.
If yawl are meant to be then she will forgive you.
She will more than likely be very upset, after all it is a lie, but hopefully you guys can work it out.
2007-03-14 00:41:40 · answer #10 · answered by princessamber_89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋