There is always so much said about children needing homes all over the world. Why, then, is it so difficult to adopt? I would like to adopt a child (not a baby, but not school age either) - how do I start? And is there a chance that I can? (I'm 48, female,single(widowed), financially & physically stable)
2007-03-13 17:28:15 · 7 answers · asked by ? 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Wow! Lots of great info so far - the thing about being a foster parent is that I KNOW I couldn't bear giving them away! My love can't be temporary - when I love, I love to the depths of my soul - I couldn't hold back knowing that the child may be leaving - I know some foster parents do it only for the money and are real creeps - but, oh the pain a good foster oarents must feel when they take that child back - uchk! Makes my whole self ache just thinking of it!
2007-03-14 07:07:45 · update #1
because those kids deserve a whole lot better than the average nut cases that are out there!
2007-03-13 17:31:25 · answer #1 · answered by impossiblemama 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would say your best bet, based on your status, is to foster first, then possibly adopt. You probably would have a better chance going through an agency for adoption. Most have criteria on age however, it does make sense....Even though you are still "young", they want to make sure that you are around for the child, and can "keep up" with the child as you grow older too. Most agencies have an age limit, around 45 is max in some cases, but I bet if you do your research, you may find that some do not have restrictions. Again, fostering is a great way to begin, plus, with your wish for a toddler or young child, your chances of that placement are greater than an infant anyhow. You may go through several placements and then possibly have to return the child to parents, however, there are many situations, children in foster care, who need homes now. Good luck to you, I agree that age, etc., should not be a factor here, afterall, I am sure that any child in a foster or adoption situation just wants one thing..... a mom or dad or both, an to be stable and loved.
2007-03-13 23:25:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a minimum of 50 couples for each available white newborn. that's no longer no longer plausible in spite of the undeniable fact that it may be a lengthy wait & now complicated. a lot of human beings undertake from places like Russia & are open to all forms of particular needs because of the undeniable fact that that they had particularly have a white infant with complications than a healthful minority infant. If more beneficial human beings followed outdoors their race there's a lot less racism. in spite of the undeniable fact that each adoptive figure receives to pick in this manner of adoption that works best for them, once you're maximum tender adopting a white infant then that's what you should do, basically know it may take awhile.
2016-12-01 23:28:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it b/c they wanna make sure those kids are getting into a good home!! and are getting the life they are suppose to have..b.c you hear these stories on how foster parents dont treat the kids good..meaning...not feeding them...beating them..not being good role models...it all depends on the agency and stuff like that..i know that they do back ground checks now..and credit checks...and there might be more then one person thats going for the same child..and they would have to pick what "family" would do a better job..its hard i know..but im sure the wait is worth it
2007-03-13 17:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I am sure that you would be eligible to adopt an older child or even a sibling group. There are online agencies that feature kids like this, or you can contact your local Family Services agency, or whatever they call it in your state. Google 'adoption' and you'll come up with a bunch of starting points! Also there are magazines devoted to this kind of thing - your local library probably has a few of them, or Barnes and Noble carries them.
2007-03-13 17:33:20 · answer #5 · answered by Cris O 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know many people that have been able to adopt by being a foster mother first. Have you tried that option?
2007-03-13 18:13:42 · answer #6 · answered by Bass 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes there is still a chance that you can adopt and i agree with you that its too hard ppl who have the financial means and time to take care of a baby but cant or wont have their own are denied but they let idiots breed all over the place there should be standardised testing for parenthood
2007-03-13 18:43:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋