It's crazy! I never understood it. I'm sure that this happens to girls too but........ There are alot of guys who would legitimatly treat the girl that they care about like the most important person on the planet. Alot of girls say that they want a guy who would treat them that way but then you see alot of those girls turn down the guy. Even on yahoo answers alot of the girls say that this is what they want but i doubt that a large part of the group would actually stick to it. I'm not talking about guys who may be socially disasters either. Just cool guys who want to respect their girls and have a great time together. Maybe it's the idea of her knowing that he likes her so much that turns her off. I don't know. Somebody is going to say "you haven't met the right girl" and i'm just righting ahead of time to say that that doesn't make sense. It's not like the guy would be trying to find a wife. we're talking about a girlfriend.
2007-03-13 17:12:00 · 10 answers · asked by Vince R 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The reason you've had trouble understanding it is because its a relative position. Let's use a woman, as an example, and, for the sake of argument, she slept with 6 different guys in college. Would you say she is one of "loose morals"? Your perspective will be different on both sides from someone that came from an incredibly liberal background and one that came from a heavily conservative one. In other words, her label will never be consistent. Now, from her perspective, she may understand why she was with those men and may view herself as one of strong morals.
Now, look apply this same idea of being a good guy. The definition of a good for a woman has to be subjective, as well. Some may put more emphasis on physical characteristics contributing towards that definition, while others look entirely on personality. Some women may feel that worship is too smothering for their taste, others may see it as an essential to their relationship. Regardless, the guy may see himself in a uniquely positive light and explain his relationship status, or lack thereof, on a phenomenon that nobody can adequately explain.
It's important to remember that compatibility and relationship potential, if you will, is not on a linear scale. If you open doors or remain faithful in a relationship, you wont advance down a magic number line that improves your chances of finding a good partner.
Instead, try to see that you are standing in the middle of society staring around at groups of people. Some parts of your personality will move you closer to one group while coincidentally moving you farther from others. If you're still standing on your own, chances are that you need to do something more.
Ok.. I'm tired of typing now. Good luck.
2007-03-13 17:28:01 · answer #1 · answered by MrSparkle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a perfect society, the good guy would always get the girl. But we dont live in a perfect society. Sometimes Mr. Niceguy isnt always the right guy to have. Plus, i think alot of times, girls use guys as "Eye Candy" (you know, they go out with a hot guy to impress everyone even if they dont like the guy). And other times, Mr. Niceguy may not be the persons type. Who knows...
2007-03-14 00:21:19 · answer #2 · answered by unreal_punk_rocker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a nice guy and I have a beautiful, wonderful wife. The mistake many "nice guys" make is not being ready for marriage. A lot of women want a guy to be ready for marriage, not a guy that just wants to be their boyfriend forever. A relationship that never goes anywhere gets old pretty quick for most women. Being nice isn't enough. You have to have your **** together as they say. Women want the whole package, not just a "nice guy." The women I know want to be taken care of and protected. Sorry but I'm old fashioned and that has worked for me. Most women don't dream of growing up and shacking up with some guy. They dream of meeting a nice guy and him marrying them and living happily ever after. Does that make sense?
2007-03-14 00:19:58 · answer #3 · answered by Q.A. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that happened to me. I really wanted a nice guy, like I didn't even care about looks or anything. I ended up meaning the world to the guy. but the thing with us girls is that, we want a chase too. LIke, We want to even out our chances. If the guy keeps on giving, let's say love... more of it than we could give back... it loses worth... does this make sense. Well, that's how I feel, if it doesn't then we're jsut complicated like that.
2007-03-14 00:21:11 · answer #4 · answered by RC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
usually the nice guys are nice because they have to be.. i find theyre usually not good looking. or sometimes a guy will act too nice because hes a virgin or has never been in a serious relationship and acts so nice because hes a little on the desperate side..
2007-03-14 00:15:48 · answer #5 · answered by ytrewq 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nice guys finish last ... sad but true, most of the time. But there are always exceptions to every rule.
2007-03-14 00:17:22 · answer #6 · answered by namojaro 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not usually, Good guys always win!
2007-03-14 00:15:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No! Good means Good! So get good and you will always be first! Don't be BAD!! or you Will finish LAST!!! Really!!
2007-03-14 00:55:08 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating is supposed to go somewhere though....no they dont finish last....my husband got the love of his life which is me! try not to overwhelm her....take it slow...dont give up.....Pisces women love attention....but find out who you are compatable with ok?
2007-03-14 00:17:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if the good guys do the right thing
2007-03-14 00:15:56 · answer #10 · answered by Samantha 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋