Every time a girl flirts with me its like im frozen and dont know what to say...I feel im not worthy sort of..What can i do to stop freezing up?
2007-03-13 17:07:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Congratulations. You, sir, are a former me.
Not even two years ago, I had the same issues...almost exactly as you have.
When girls would talk to me, I wouldn't know how to reply. The simplest questions would be answered with mixed words because I was so damn nervous about even communicating.
I seriously felt that I wasn't worthy to talk to attractive girls, either.
For a long time, I thought that I was the ugliest dude in the world, and when I would confess that at times, I would only hear girls disagree and flatter me by telling me how cute I was. Of course, I thought it was just sweet-lies, and it never helped my confidence.
I can't really explain how or why, but one day, I just woke up and didn't care anymore.
I was tiered of being so scared of what girls thought of me, and I was tiered of belittling myself day after day, thinking I wasn't even good enough to talk to them.
I didn't change who I was at all - acting like I was the coolest guy around, just to make the girls look twice - I was simply me, and I loved it.
I didn't care what anyone thought about me, and I was finally happy with life.
After that, I found it extremely easy to not only talk to girls, but approach them as well.
The thing is, confidence in yourself, as big a factor in dating it may be, is not enough alone.
You have to know how to stay calm, and to keep your excitement inside. Sure, she may be the most gorgeous thing you have ever seen, but if you tell her that right from the start, she might think you're a little weird.
You have to be clever and catchy, original and funny. You have to know how to show a girl something that she has yet to see in a guy, and make sure that it is something that she will like enough to keep her around.
Never lie to yourself about who you are, because no girl is worth forcing yourself to be someone you're not all the time.
So...all in all, be confident, be yourself, and be interesting.
You'll find out soon enough that girls can be just afraid of guys as guys are of girls at times, and you'll learn that it never hurts to try, and it's always better to be denied when rather than never working towards what you want.
2007-03-13 17:19:28 · answer #1 · answered by w3squick3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick a person that you figure that you'll never meet again and
flirt like mad . Don't expect anything out of it except practice
but if she responds , congratulations! The more you do it
the more relaxed you'll be with someone who you Really
want to be with. Remember that this person knows NOTHING
about you-so don't be shy about who you'd like to be-role play.
If she rejects you-so what!-you didn't expect anything to happen anyway. Go to a music event , bar , anywhere people
congregate in a relax manner , and chat "her" up.
I did just that with a very attractive woman I saw on a streetcar-I figured that she would never go for me -but I reasoned that if I didn't try then I would never see her again.
I was very aggressive-which is not my normal persona BUT we ended up dating for a year!
Really-what do you have to lose?
2007-03-13 17:23:25 · answer #2 · answered by mindfeederz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to build up your confidence. Practice conversations on yourself or with a trusted friend. The more self confident you feel the freezing up will end. Be yourself and be a better listener that talker at first. You can do this please don't give up by being too hard on yourself. Good luck thing are going to work out for you.
2007-03-13 17:13:35 · answer #3 · answered by mother of Bridezilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drink a little alcohol, drinking turned me from a wallflower to a very popular girl. There really is nothing like it to make you quiet your inner critic, just have a good time, and be the likeable person that your closest friends and family already know you are.
2007-03-13 17:11:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only be your self ask her questions approximately herself get to nicely known her be random be humorous yet dont attempt to annoying start up via being thoroughly hoesnt along with her. ladies love honesty. and that would desire to start abit of verbal replace via itself in case you tell her the form you experience and tell her that your shy. it could be a try for her reason youd see how shed react to that and you will possibly be able to desire to earnings some new issues approximately her. =]
2016-10-18 08:11:11 · answer #5 · answered by trinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue to do what you were doing. Obviously, whatever it was you were doing gave them the idea to flirt with you. If you weren't doing anything, just try not to think about them, and I guess, if you want, go along with it.
2007-03-13 17:11:47 · answer #6 · answered by spinelli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have her thaw you with a kiss
just kidding
make sure that you dont smell or look bad and than go up and start a conversation about anything
2007-03-13 17:11:56 · answer #7 · answered by Dillon C (who else) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself...shes flirting with you in the first place...so your doing fine...the more you work on talking to girls...it will get easier
2007-03-13 17:16:47 · answer #8 · answered by right_field_cutie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about it...she must be flirting with you for some reason...girls dont' waste their time ya know
BE YOURSELF, don't be different just b/c someone is flirting with you
2007-03-13 17:11:55 · answer #9 · answered by lizzyhappy2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋