What do I do? My sister and I live together. She is 7 years older than me and has no job, no car, and has her son living with me. She had a large sum of money come in in December but blew it. Now her car is broke and she is broke.
I pay for everything, all the bills, all the groceries, she uses my car and gas. Her son lives there too, I feel like I am supporting them.
I have 3 kids of my own and I cant handle taking care of her and her son. Its old.
A guy I been seeing asked me to move in with him so I can be free of paying for my sister. My kids live with their Dad right now. Should I move in with my guy to teach my sister a lesson? That its not my responsiblity to take care of her? She has no motivation and ALWAYS expects someone to pay her way in life.
2007-03-13 16:50:42 · 8 answers · asked by Navulam 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Talk to her sister about it, and tell her you're done supporting her and her son. If she doesn't clean up her act, move out (doesn't even need to be with the other guy). You will save how much money by moving, even if it's on your own? Don't really do it to teach her a lesson, but do it for yourself so that you can be more successful in your own life. You're right, it isn't your responsibility to take care of your sister and her son. Get out of there soon if the situation doesn't change.
2007-03-13 16:57:42 · answer #1 · answered by Wildernessguy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My sister did me the same way. All I can advise is take care of yourself and force her to take care of herself. Is there a real reason that she can't take care of herself? Is she disabled? If the answer is no then you need to tell her she has exactly 60 days to get her act together. If at the end of that time she has not gotten a job and taken over her share of the bills you will no longer her helping her financially. You feel like you are supporting them because you are. Now the guy is a whole other story. Dont let yourself be pushed into a situation you dont want to be in just to get away from your sister. If you want to move in with him do it for the right reasons not to teach your sister anything. good luck -k-
2007-03-14 00:13:22 · answer #2 · answered by kbama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you have a guy that wants you to move in with him. Thats great, but dont move in with him to teach your sister a lesson. You move in if you want to. There are other ways to teach her a lesson. Second of all you need to stop being a bank for her, She doesnt sound like she has a disability of any kind. She should be able to work and take care of herself and her son. I think that you should give her a deadline to straighten her life out and then kick her out if she doesnt do it. You have to live your life for yourself and not others. If you are worried about her son, then you could call the government and see what help THEY could give her. I know that there are alot of programs that offer help for single mothers. Good Luck and dont let yourself be a doormat any longer.
2007-03-14 00:31:34 · answer #3 · answered by fazugosgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, keep in mind that she is your SISTER, she is family. You can't just leave her out in the cold to teach her a lesson. That's not how you do things with family. You need to be mature about this & talk to her truthfully, honestly. You also don't want to be moving in with that guy you been seeing just "so you can be free of paying for your sister". Moving in is a BIG step as far as relationships go. You should only move in with him b/c you both love eachother, trust eachother & see your relationship potential, long term. Not because of a way out of a family problem. YOU NEED TO TALK TO YOUR SISTER. Don't ever abandon family. -friends maybe, but never with family.
2007-03-14 00:37:06 · answer #4 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly she is family. You need to talk directly with her and reason out your grievances. Make her realised that she need to contribute in the house, gave her a time limit to come out of her problems.
You can just leave but remember that she is your sister with a kid and she is having problems, so give her time and if she does not take, you can very well go ahead.
Good Luck
2007-03-14 01:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by sonisunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have an honest discussion with your sister. tell her your plans and that she needs 2 get her act together
2007-03-13 23:55:01 · answer #6 · answered by heynow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you feel like you're supporting them because you ARE supporting them. so stop it and tell her she has ONE MONTH to get a job or get out...
2007-03-13 23:55:17 · answer #7 · answered by BJC 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why move from your home? Tell her to move.
2007-03-14 00:02:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋